…development, but of the calming effect they can have by reacting intelligently and sensitively to their child. A parent can cause lasting psychological problems by imparting their own anxiety, fear and frustration onto their child in times of stress. This book teaches parents a healthy way to respond to your child’s natural discomforts, wants and needs….
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…the present, rather than getting lost in memories or being carried away by fears about the future. We now notice that what we formerly thought was essential drops away. Our priorities are now reshuffled. No longer rushed to get dinner on the table between scheduling demands, we have time to explore new recipes. Now is also a good time to add self-care into your routine. Exercise is known to help with management of stress, invaluable in such a chal…
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…lly, doing so does not relinquish you to the slovenly mound of mush you so fear — it frees up the energy you have spent in frustration and self-loathing to be used productively, in such ground-breaking endeavors as taking a deep breath and smiling. Filling your lungs with ocean air or rejoicing that your legs are capable of carrying you down a sun-dappled path. Like any perspective shift, this takes time. But the only way to begin the shift is to…
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…someone and they don’t like you, well then on to the next one. There is no fear of failure because for every one or two rejections you get one or two matches. This is a game that you can keep playing until you win. However, this can lead you to feel as if potential partners are expendable. As you know that there are more people out there who you might be a match with. Why limit yourself to one match when you can have 10? Or why settle for one part…
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…ou choose to simply acknowledge that this is a tough moment, that there is fear or uncertainty in you. That’s OK, too. Sometimes it can be more helpful to sit with a negative emotion for a minute or two to see what’s causing it, to air it. Then you can choose your response – to let it be; to ask yourself what you can do about it; or to remind yourself of what’s positive instead. Tip 3: You’re enough Another trap we can fall into is of not being en…
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…an unconscious as well as conscious level, most remain unaware of how the fear of death influences significant aspects of their lives and motivates many of their actions. Whether death anxiety is conscious or unconscious, most of us react to it by defending ourselves to avoid feeling the excruciating pain and sadness that comes with the full realization that life is temporary. Instead, we choose some degree of denial and escape, and in the proces…
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…mbing, but you probably will, as long as you stop a) being afraid, because fear is heavy; and b) trying to figure out how you’re going to do it. You don’t know how you will. Knowledge here is limiting. Push past what you think you know, and for heaven’s sake, get up that sh*t.” Thanks to that advice, I did manage to climb the rock in question. There’s great comfort in a space where all action is experiment: no givens, no set limits. The depth of c…
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…not what women experience during transitions; instead, old traumas and big fears surface. I bring this up, because so often traumas and fears can completely derail mature women getting ready to date. If this happens, it is important to find a professional well versed in working with trauma to help, because trauma does not go away by ignoring it. The good news is that if old traumas and big fears do surface, this provides an opportunity to start to…
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…ly in public, all parents experience humiliation. They are embarrassed and fear that onlookers will regard them as faulty parents. However, do not let your self-consciousness or self-attacks affect your actions. Your focus should not be on worrying about how you are being seen, but on tending to the agony that your child is going through. When your kid is in this state, do not send her to her room. Isolation is not a constructive solution because…
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…e mid-1970s with not a single year’s decrease below epidemic levels of 8 to 11. Beginning in 1993, however, Clinton’s first year in office, the murder rate for the first time since 1933 began a steep and uninterrupted year by year decline, beginning at 10.5 in 1993, falling below 8 by 1997, and bottoming out at 6.4 by 2000, his last year in office (following which, under Bush Jr., it began once again increasing). To explain why this occurred, we n…
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