…mative! I like the idea of dividing it up into the specific areas of self, intimacy and parenting…I particularly enjoyed the workshop and began a unit, entered a journal sample and again appreciated the quality of the content…Personally this is a site I will spend a lot of time on and recommend it to all colleagues and friends – along with community mental health at our local hospital… Great work, excellent and very valuable resource…Congrats and…
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…ies between the actual and ideal self are linked to feelings of dejection. Intimacy is linked to feeling understood by one’s partner. Therefore, if participants aspire to an intimate relationship, their desire to feel understood by their potential mates will motivate self-disclosures that are open and honest as opposed to deceptive. But how can we know for sure? Online self-presentation is more malleable and subject to self-censorship than face-to…
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…is being forced to open up his heart without really engaging in true open intimacy. Honesty and Integrity: Honesty builds trust between people, which is necessary for a relationship to flourish. Without honesty, there is no real communication, resulting in an emotional disconnect between partners. The drama and competition in The Bachelorette creates an environment where the guys will do anything to get the girl, including lying, cheating, and in…
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…media appearances. Here she speaks exclusively to PsychAlive on topics of intimacy, love, parenting, and more. [SlideDeck2 id=13301] Order a DVD of Dr. Pat Love’s full interview with PsychAlive, “On Relationships and Parenting“ In this DVD, Dr. Pat Love covers a variety of topics regarding relationships and parenting. She begins by defining the concept of love and what it means to be loving. She discusses values in a loving relationship and offer…
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…stic. They have a stronger sense of themselves so they are capable of more intimacy, love and passion in their relationship. The only way to stay yourself in a relationship Maintain your interests. When two people fall in love, they experience themselves and each other as separate individuals with distinct identities, and their own ideas, interests and friends. Their individuality makes them interesting to each other. * Maintain interests that wer…
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…he is so much prettier/thinner/more successful than me!” Even if our worst fears materialize, and we learn of a partner’s affair, we frequently react by directing anger at ourselves for being “foolish, unlovable, ruined or unwanted.” These critical inner voices and the feelings of humiliation that they foster can be more painful to us than the threat itself. They can also be more real. This negative self-coaching accompanies us into our personal r…
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…elps people understand why this transition has occurred and helps them to bring physical affection and sexual closeness back into their lives….
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…A Dialectical Behavior Therapy Guide to Finding Peace, Intimacy and Validation. Alan E. Fruzzetti, Ph.D. Relationships have the power to stir up many emotions. When these emotions become too intense or too hard to handle or control, there are therapeutic methods to alter our behavior and resolve conflicts. By learning how to calm down and regulate emotions, couple who truly care for each other can learn to lead a peaceful, intimate co-existence….
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…laming or attacking your partner? 2. Defensiveness – are you closed off to feedback from your partner? 3. Contempt – are you rolling your eyes, mocking or pushing your partner away? 4. Stonewalling – are you shut down in your interactions with your partner? Is your underlying tone and body language stand-offish or withdrawn? These four behaviors are all characteristics of relating in a fantasy bond as my father, Dr. Robert Firestone delineated in…
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…u ready for marriage.” He says successful marriages involve growing and an intimacy-based approach emphasizing “tone” and “depth of connection.” I know, I know. You want to enjoy the honeymoon, at least, before you’re forced to entertain such sobering truths. But, couplehood precedes marriage, so even before the honeymoon begins, there may be some need to take stock and assess – dare I say, to prepare for a post-wedding reality. Schnarch says that…
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