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“Stuck” A life lesson on parenting by Debra Kessler, Psy.D.

…Neurorelational Framework for Interdisciplinary Practice (Lillas &Turnbull 2009). Dr. Kessler has an active practice in Montrose, California. In a family centered manner, she treats a range of developmental and emotional issues including adoption/attachment difficulties, bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression, autism/Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD, learning challenges, regulatory difficulties and other issues that interfere with children reaching their…

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Is Cynicism Ruining Your Life?

…t to shake off. But what are the risks of indulging in cynical attitudes? A 2009 study of more than 97,000 women showed that optimistic women had lower rates of coronary heart disease, cancer-related deaths, and mortality. Conversely, women with the most pessimistic and cynical personalities, had higher rates of these diseases and death. When we think of hostility and negativity as life-threatening conditions, it makes the goal of being less cynic…

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Addictions

…g ourselves by in effect saying, “I don’t need anything from anyone. I can feed myself!!” Even the anorexic person, in refusing to eat, is still saying “I will not take food from anybody, I don’t need anything from anybody, I control what goes in my body!!” Think about your eating habits. What function does food serve in your life? Could you be using food in an addictive way? 3. Addictions to activities or routines These types of activities are ha…

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Gang Violence, Violence, gangs, teenage gangs, Father Greg Boyle, Homeboy Industries

Preventing Gang Violence: Why Kids Become Violent

…e suffering of the poor is shame and disgrace. It’s not their inability to feed their families or buy Pampers. It’s shame and disgrace. And so you have to reach in and dismantle those messages of shame and disgrace and replace them with the truth. And the truth is good. It’s always good. And so they have to redefine themselves. What happens here at Homeboy Industries, which is a therapeutic community really (is that) people get held. So they come…

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Video: Dr. John Norcross on lasting self-change

…this support. There’s on line support group, there’s co-workers, there’s friends from earlier in your life who can be on the telephone or shoot you an email. On our website for the book, www.changeologybook.com, we even have a list of apps and websites that will feed you inspiring quotes and motivational messages. For a while, I thought that was like, “Well, I’m not sure that would really be useful.” It turns out the research suggests that it doe…

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Understanding Compulsive Shopping

…hopping is seen as a coping mechanism many people use in response to their fears or death anxiety. There has also been a pattern of compulsive shoppers receiving presents instead of attention as a child. As an adult, this causes the addict to continue to feed his or her need for material praise, rather than seeking comfort from other people (Benson). In addition to being emotionally deprived as children, compulsive shoppers may also have experienc…

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addiction, alcoholism, psychalive, recovery

Are You an Addict?

…g ourselves by in effect saying, “I don’t need anything from anyone. I can feed myself.!!” Even the anorexic person, in refusing to eat, is still saying “I will not take food from anybody, I don’t need anything from anybody, I control what goes in my body.!!” Think about your eating habits. What function does food serve in your life? Could you be using food in an addictive way? 3. Addictions to activities or routines These types of activities are…

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Parenting advice, parenting, Tina Bryson

Knowledge, Instinct, and Self-Understanding: Basic Parenting Tips | By Dr. Tina Bryson

…rns, she’d discover that during a growth spurt, a baby will often “cluster feed” for a week or two. An understanding of this important phase in her son’s life can help the mother be much more patient and understanding, even if she continues to feel a bit frustrated about the amount of time she’s spending nursing. The same would apply to a toddler. A father can address the tantrums of his two-year-old much more lovingly and effectively if he has an…

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Starting a Relationship 101

…someone or letting someone really get to know us on a more intimate level. Fears will naturally arise, as will the pain of past hurts. We may experience these emotions in the form of anxiety or an instinct to hit the brakes. We may even resort to old defenses that lead us to pull away from someone before they can get too close to us. The best thing we can do is be aware of these reactions. Notice when they arise, but stand firm in our determinatio…

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Sibling Rivalry, brothers and sisters

Siblings: Retaliation or Sadistic Pleasure

…to their own hands with less constructive results. Another factor that may feed the sadistic and retaliatory behavior between siblings is when one of the siblings is very impulsive, demanding and intense and/or provocative. If one of the children, Johnny or Suzie, has difficulty managing their feelings and calming down, conflict management is significantly hampered. Similarly, if Suzie or Johnny can’t understand that the other person has rights an…

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