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How to Stop Feeling Triggered by Your Partner

In my last blog, I wrote about some of the psychological reasons we get triggered by our partner in a relationship. I explored why tensions can rise so quickly, and things can feel heated before either person has a chance to understand what’s going on. These conflicts can be fraught enough for some people to end the relationship. Others may seek counseling. Yet, many couples just fall into a pattern of fight, make up, move on, fight, make up, mov…

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Ways to Improve Your Relationship While Sheltering at Home

Just as it has with pretty much everything else in our lives, Covid-19 has had a significant impact on our relationships. Pair the novelty of the situation with the increased uncertainty and stress of coping with a global pandemic, and what we’ll find is that most couples are facing new strains on their relationship that are making life at home all the more difficult. The first thing to do if you find yourself in this situation is to take a deep…

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Are You Swiping Right on Your Attachment Style?

…t in romantic relationships: dismissive avoidant, anxious preoccupied, and fearful avoidant attachment. One woman I know was a self-sufficient loner who had a history of casual encounters and short-term relationships. When she signed up for online dating, her siblings teased her because she only picked women who lived across the country from her. When she became excited about a woman who lived in Europe, her sister suggested that if she was seriou…

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Helping Children Thrive: How I Spoke Up for One Little Girl

…before she became the Executive Director of CASA of Santa Barbara County in 2009. She knows first-hand the impact a CASA volunteer can have on a child. She told me about Alex, who was abandoned by his parents when he was 11. In foster care, Alex was doing very poorly in school. His new CASA volunteer was the first to speculate that Alex might have vision problems. Sure enough, an examination showed that he needed glasses. After having chronically…

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The Impact of Parenting on Child Development: An Interview with James Garbarino

James Garbarino Ph.D. is an author and Professor at Loyola University Chicago. An expert in the field of child and adolescent development, he specializes in violence-related issues, such as the impact of violence on children, maltreatment of children and child aggression. Dr. Garbarino holds the Maude C. Clarke Chair in Humanistic Psychology and was founding Director of the Center for the Human Rights of Children at Loyola University Chicago. He…

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“Stuck” A life lesson on parenting by Debra Kessler, Psy.D.

…Neurorelational Framework for Interdisciplinary Practice (Lillas &Turnbull 2009). Dr. Kessler has an active practice in Montrose, California. In a family centered manner, she treats a range of developmental and emotional issues including adoption/attachment difficulties, bipolar disorder, anxiety, depression, autism/Asperger’s syndrome, ADHD, learning challenges, regulatory difficulties and other issues that interfere with children reaching their…

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Attachment, Trauma and Dissociation: An Interview with Dr. Christine Courtois

Christine A. Courtois, PhD, ABPP, is a psychologist and expert in the field of trauma. Dr. Courtois has authored numerous books including Treating Complex Traumatic Stress Disorders: An Evidence-Based Guide (2009),Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy (2010, 1988), and The Treatment of Complex Trauma: A Sequenced, Relationship-Based Approach (2012). She is Co-Founder of The CENTER: Posttraumatic Disorders Program, Washington, DC wh…

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Compulsive Liars: The Truth About Lying

…re You Find Real Facts Rather Than Alternative Facts. Forbes.com. Retrieved 11 March 2017, from https://www.forbes.com/sites/berlinschoolofcreativeleadership/2017/02/01/10-journalism-brands-where-you-will-find-real-facts-rather-than-alternative-facts/#581db1d2e9b5 Graham, D. (2017). ‘Alternative Facts’: The Needless Lies of the Trump Administration. The Atlantic. Retrieved 11 March 2017, from https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2017/01/th…

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Mindfulness for Life: An Interview with Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn

Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., is a scientist, writer, and meditation teacher who has received acclaim for bringing mindfulness into the mainstream of medicine and society. He is a professor emeritus and founding director of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He has authored several books including Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness M…

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Society, Relationships, and Pleasure: An Interview with Dr. Carol Gilligan

Dr. Carol Gilligan is an American feminist, ethicist, and psychologist best known for her work on ethical relationships and gender studies. She is currently a Professor at New York University and a visiting Professor at the University of Cambridge, where she works with the Centre for Gender Studies. Dr. Gilligan taught at Harvard University for more than 30 years. Her ground-breaking book, In a Different Voice (1982) achieved much critical acclai…

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