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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider on Developing Awe in Existential Psychotherapy

…r. Kirk Schneider talks about developing awe in existential psychotherapy. Lisa Firestone: How do you help patients start to develop this or how does it come up in the psychotherapy setting? Kirk Schneider: Again, I see that as an organic evolution in the kind of work that I do or that many people do, I think that you do. I’d call it depth existential therapy. It’s wherever you give a person a chance to, again, develop presence, concerted presence…

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VIDEO: Attuned Attachment and Healthy Attachment

In her interview with PsychAlive Senior Editor Lisa Firestone, Dr. Donna Rockwell talks about the difference between attuned or healthy attachment and the negative types of attachment Buddhism often refers to. You know, you’re absolutely right. So often a lot of the words that are used have a meaning in Sanskrit or in the Tibetan culture or any culture that mindfulness has come from. And when you’re talking about psychodynamic theories or Winnico…

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Cultural Stereotypes of Men and Women

…say things which, if you thought about for two minutes, you wouldn’t say. Lisa Firestone: It makes men and women out to be enemies in a lot of situations too which really ends up interfering in relationships. CG: Not to mention how it, you know, [is] costing the world. But the other one is that, “Men have selves and women have relationships,” when, again, if you think about it for a minute, if you don’t have a self or a voice, you’re not in relat…

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VIDEO: Becoming a "Self-Scientist"

In her interview with PsychAlive Senior Editor Lisa Firestone, Dr. Donna Rockwell talks about the impermanence and the freedom that arises when one becomes a “self-scientist.” Everything’s impermanent. That’s what the Buddha discovered when he was sitting under the Bodhi tree for that whole night and said I won’t get up until I realize enlightenment. What he discovered through that whole night was that whatever arises is subject to cessation. Tha…

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How We Defend Against Love

…Even though we all say we want love, there are many ways we protect ourselves by sabotaging our relationships. Dr. Lisa Firestone explores why and how we act out these destructive patterns with our partners….

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What are the Qualities of an Ideal Relationship?

…There are certain characteristics people can bring to their relationships that will drastically improve the dynamics between them and their partners. Psychologist Dr. Lisa Firestone explains some of the qualities people can aim for that will help them feel closer and more fulfilled in their intimate relationships….

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Feminism and Patriarchy

…ou have to go back to say wait a minute, that’s not what feminism is. Lisa Firestone: Yeah, I think you have to define what patriarchy really is too in a way because I think that people think that patriarchy is just being, you know, men feeling like they’re in charge or you know— CG: Well you think of patriarchy, yes the sort of misunderstanding is [that it is] sort of men’s oppression of women, but, in fact, here’s where the psychological work is…

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Treating Violent Individuals – NOFSW Conference

…See Slides from Dr. Lisa Firestone’s Presentation:…

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VIDEO: Dr. John C. Norcross on What Does Not Work in Psychotherapy

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. John C. Norcross. LF: So we’ve talked a lot about what works in psychotherapy. But can you say a little bit about what doesn’t? JN: Sure. We’ve been doing research over the last 10 or 15 years, trying to complement what works with identifying a consensus of what doesn’t. And most of this research has been done with Dr. Jerry Coucher. And the thought is, we…

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Home (not again) for the Holidays

…nt? In his upcoming and updated book, Challenging the Fantasy Bond, Robert Firestone discusses how we recreate the past in our current relationships. The concept of the fantasy bond, when applied to a couple relationship, demonstrates people’s compulsion to relive the past with new persons. The illusory connections they form invariably lead to a re-enactment of defensive styles of relating developed in childhood. In essence, people transform the d…

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