…e couples often fall into a pattern of placing less importance on physical intimacy and casual affection. However, simple acts of affection such as holding hands, making eye contacting and engaging in small flirtatious behaviors can help people feel closer to one another. Companionship – It is important to share activities and do things with your partner that light both you up. Often when people first fall in love, they bond over a shared love of…
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…in their developmental years they will have problems in accepting love and intimacy from their children. Faced with the emotional pain that it causes them, parents will unconsciously distance themselves from their child. 4. If parents have unresolved trauma in their own lives they will tend to be mis-attuned to their children, especially when their children approach periods in their lives that were traumatic for the parent. They may react by becom…
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…he now felt panicked and fell to pieces at the thought of being alone. She feared she wouldn’t be able to take care of herself, to even survive without him. It took her some time, but the woman ultimately realized that it wasn’t her husband’s loss she was mourning; it was the illusion of security that the relationship provided. She had used her marriage to feel that she was living up to society’s expectations, to prove to that she was a desirable…
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…r. Why is this? Because most people tend to have many (albeit unconscious) fears of intimacy. Overcoming these fears means facing the part of ourselves that keeps us from living fully and experiencing happiness. We all possess an inner critic or “anti-self” that limits us in our goals and keeps us from fulfilling our full potential. This inner enemy is shaped throughout our early lives, through experiences that hurt us or that taught us to be fear…
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…takes a turn for the better, there are few answers on how to cope with the fear and frustration that many of us are still living with everyday. For those of us, the most vital advice is also the simplest: do not isolate yourself. Not one of us hasn’t felt the weight of the recent economic crisis – not only the practical but the emotional impact. While, in low moments, we may feel alone in this, alone is the last thing we should be. When someone is…
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…calm our nervous system. We may even feel guilty to try to “calm down” for fear we’re ignoring a problem we should be doing something about. The truth is, while our adrenaline can be fuel to take action (more on that later), that immediate fight-or-flight mode we fall into in a given moment can take a toll on us mentally and physically. And when it gets really bad, we may even seek out numbing agents or distractions to help us escape instead of de…
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…. It’s extremely hard to know what exactly to say, do, or ways to help, in fear of making your teen upset, mad at you, or even more uncomfortable. Your teen doesn’t want this either. It’s important to show yourself love and compassion the same way you want your teen to show themselves love and compassion. Tip #2 : Don’t Ever Say “Just Eat It.” While ED’s can be confusing and frustrating, the last thing you ever want to tell your teen is ‘Just eat…
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In this Webinar: We avoid the very thing we want – love – for fear of again experiencing a loss that once felt irreparable. Rather than accepting the loss of relationship as inescapable, a healthier response is to feel the sadness and protest the loss. Otherwise, this leads us to the loss of pleasure, which is the marker of an initiation that is felt in the body and experienced as sadness and fear. You can hear this loss in the shift from a r…
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…displayed as a secondary emotion, because it masks the primary emotion of fear or sadness at other times shame or fear are maladaptive emotions. People then learn to understand, manage, and transform maladaptive emotions through EFT, so that they can access and utilize healthy, adaptive emotions, such as compassion, empowering anger or grief. Greenberg refers to his approach to couples as partners being each other’s “affective regulators” and he…
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…d. When you deal with the anxious symptoms early on, you help prevent your fears from escalating out of control. Conversely, the more you we indulge and listen to this voice, the more anxiety will begin to take over your our life, keeping you out of situations you may have enjoyed. When in the throws of anxiety, it is vital that we stand strong and keep a real sense of faith that we will get through it. When in this state, we must not sabotage our…
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