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Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships

by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D. Lisa A. Firestone, Ph.D. Joyce Catlett, M.A. Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships proposes that sexual problems are largely related to defenses acquired through painful childhood experiences, and that individuals can be helped to overcome these challenges and become physically and emotionally closer to their partners. Sexuality can be one of the most fulfilling pleasures in life. Yet it is an aspect of relationship…

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VIDEO: Dr. Peter Levine on Helping Children who Experience Trauma

…to do? You’re not supposed to be riding your bicycle here!” It comes from fear, the parents’ fear. So we take a moment to get the parents some guided exercises so they can learn to feel the fear in their body and learn this is a key in letting it move through. And every intense sensation will do that. It will accumulate in the body for some moments. But then if we learn to attend to it, it’s a kind of a body-mindfulness,a body-ness, that it will…

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Societal Defenses Against Death Anxiety

…easily influenced and manipulated by others throughout their lives. Their fear of leaving the security of the family for a world of personal decision making and responsibility (the fear of individuation) can be partially avoided by a strict conformity to the standards and worldviews of their society. Nonconformity requires unusual courage because there is always guilt, fear and a sense of aloneness inherent in breaking with tradition. In addition…

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Red Pill or Blue Pill?

…Let’s take panic attacks for example. The hallmark of panic disorder is a fear of the fear. This means that you fear experiencing the physiological sensations of your biological fight-or-flight response – heart palpitations, shortness of breath, chills, sweatiness, nausea, etc. Sufferers will usually avoid feeling these sensations at all costs, which keep them safe and comfortable in a box. Or so they think. By refusing to step outside this box,…

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How to Become More Adult and Successful in Your Life

…rstandably be one of anger or embarrassment. Carefully consider or explore feedback rather than reject it summarily, then decide which aspects of the feedback you agree or disagree with, and respond from an adult perspective. Develop goals, both personal and transcendent, and live by them with integrity. An important aspect of being an adult involves envisioning goals that express your unique identity and interests, and then taking the actions nec…

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How To Be More Loving

…gs over time. Dr. Firestone will draw on Dr. Robert Firestone’s concepts’ “fear of intimacy” and the “fantasy bond” as well as findings from attachment theory and Emotion-Focused Therapy to describe common patterns that create distance and proven strategies to achieve more closeness. Individuals, couples, and therapists working with clients will benefit by learning about how negative dynamics operate, how they can be avoided, and how they can be r…

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How to Deal with Rejection

How to Deal with Rejection

…ans making our critical inner voice are number one enemy. Dr.’s Robert and Lisa Firestone have outlined specific steps we can take to identify these voices, make sense of them, separate from them, and challenge them on an action level. Taking this practice seriously can really help us stay in a healthy and realistic mind frame when recovering from a break up. Read about the steps to challenge your critical inner voice. Don’t Look Back with Rose-Co…

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Is Happiness Really Normal?

…enticity as a mask, a disguise protecting them from the abyss. Existential fears can cause people to lead lives that are less personally fulfilling. They may avoid meaningful experiences as a defense against the inevitable pain of the human condition. Dr. Robert Firestone describes this condition in his blog “Life-Affirming Death Awareness:” Most people spend their lifetime without a great deal of self-awareness, living lives of emptiness and drud…

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Resources from How to Raise an Emotionally Healthy Child

…feel they can talk to us when something is going wrong? This webinar with Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. emphasizes the importance of considering the emotional health of our children, teaching parents techniques for understanding and responding to the emotions of our children, while gaining a better understanding of ourselves and our reactions to our children. View slides from How to Raise an Emotionally Healthy Child To request a full video recording of…

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6 CE Online Suicide Prevention Training: Fulfill California’s Requirement for Suicide Risk Assessment and Intervention

…king with clients who attempt suicide of actually die by suicide ABOUT DR. LISA FIRESTONE: For more than 30 years, Dr. Lisa Firestone has traveled all over the world educating mental health and health professionals, educators, and the public on effective methods to help save lives from suicide. This course meets the new six-hour accreditation requirements that all California Psychologists must complete effective January 1, 2020.   Register Now   T…

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