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Raising Windhorse: How to Harness Personal Power

…ttainable. Much of our inability to access our personal power comes from a fear of suffering, a fear of painful feelings, or a fear of failure. This is another problem: we waste precious time and resources avoiding fear instead of living vibrantly, productively, and fully in the present moment, thereby actually creating the futures we long for. As in the practice of yoga, it is sometimes more useful to slow down and examine our reactions to things…

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The Dharma of Politics

…the reality that the adversary was being fueled by the energy of their own fears. The true enemy was their own fear! To live wisely with the devils that we encounter, we must first look for ways that we are reifying circumstances or that our reactivity may be contributing to the very outcomes we most fear. What I hope: Perhaps in the absence of the obstructionist stalemate that has made our government so dysfunctional since the election of Obama,…

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Alive Sexuality by Robert Firestone, Ph.D.

…they fantasize that they can entirely meet their own needs, that they can “feed” themselves, in effect. To help understand where one stands in relation to this defensive process, it is valuable to examine one’s sexual life and sexual fantasies because they symbolically express the individual’s attitudes toward the giving and taking of love in relation to other persons. This analysis also reveals the manner and the extent to which people have retre…

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Introduction to Alive to Intimacy

…LEARN MORE ABOUT ALIVE TO INTIMACY…

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Critical Inner Voice and Intimacy

…Critical Inner Voice and Intimacy Resources…

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Deep Sadness Can Deepen Love

…atifying sexual encounter. The combination of satisfying sex and emotional intimacy can elicit many different feelings— tenderness, excitement, pleasure in meeting the wants and needs of your partner, the thrill of having your own wants and needs met, and the gratification and joy that come from sharing such a meaningful experience. When eyes-open emotional intimacy is combined with passionate sex, two people are at their most vulnerable and acces…

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5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

…Open, Accepting and Loving. When you love yourself, you are better equipped to act with integrity in your relationships. You become a person you respect, and you give your relationship its best chance at survival. Learn more about Dr. Lisa Firestone’s eCourse “Creating Your Ideal Relationship: How to Find and Achieve the Love You Say You Want“ Learn how to break free from a Fantasy Bond in our eCourse “The Fantasy Bond: The Key to Understanding Y…

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A Guide to the Fantasy Bond

…a way to feel protected. As Dr. Robert Firestone wrote, “Most people have fears of intimacy and are self-protective and at the same time are terrified of being alone. Their solution to their emotional dilemma is to form a fantasy bond.” This bond replaces the substance of a loving relationship with the form of being a unit. It keeps people at a comfortable distance emotionally, while maintaining a sense of oneness with their partner that allows t…

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Three Ways We Make Communication Impossible

…connected is addressed. On Tuesday April 24th, 2012 from 11am to 12pm, Dr. Lisa Firestone will present a live webinar about what it means to be in a Fantasy Bond. The Fantasy Bond is a major concept in psychological theory developed by Dr. Robert Firestone. To learn more about The Fantasy Bond, Register for our FREE webinar on Tuesday, April 24th from 11am-12pm PST. This webinar will present a model for an ideal relationship that combines emotiona…

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Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships

Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. and Joyce Catlett, M.A. – Sexuality can be one of the most fulfilling pleasures in life. Yet it is an aspect of relationships that is complex and sometimes fraught with difficulty. Given the mixed messages about sexuality that exist in our culture, it is hardly surprising that people encounter difficulties in achieving intimacy. Indeed, they have considerable difficulty in communicating and workin…

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