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How Negative Thoughts Are Ruining Your Life

…herapy technique developed by my father psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone. It is the basis of a book we co-authored titled Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice and the subject of many of my lectures, Webinars and my upcoming six-week eCourse “Overcome Your Inner Critic.” Why I have invested so much of my time and work into this subject is because what I have found in my 30 years of research and clinical practice is that, in almost all case…

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VIDEO: Dr. John C. Norcross on Neuroscience and Psychotherapy

…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. John C. Norcross. LF: And what do you think about all the new findings in neuroscience? Are they really informing psychotherapy or are they not so important? JN: Well, I’m excited by it. But my answer is, really; not much — and profoundly influencing it. The ‘not much’ comes from those of us who already believed there was a brain. I suppose if you started…

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What are the Qualities of an Ideal Relationship?

…There are certain characteristics people can bring to their relationships that will drastically improve the dynamics between them and their partners. Psychologist Dr. Lisa Firestone explains some of the qualities people can aim for that will help them feel closer and more fulfilled in their intimate relationships….

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How We Learn to Relate

…What causes us to act the way we do in our relationships? Why do the words that come out of our mouths sometimes feel foreign to us? Dr. Lisa Firestone explains the source of some of our behavior in our closest relationships….

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Cultural Stereotypes of Men and Women

…things which, if you thought about for two minutes, you wouldn’t say. Lisa Firestone: It makes men and women out to be enemies in a lot of situations too which really ends up interfering in relationships. CG: Not to mention how it, you know, [is] costing the world. But the other one is that, “Men have selves and women have relationships,” when, again, if you think about it for a minute, if you don’t have a self or a voice, you’re not in relationsh…

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Are You in an Unhealthy Relationship?

…hat psychologist and Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships author, Robert Firestone calls a “fantasy bond.” A fantasy bond replaces real acts of love and affection toward your partner with an illusion of connection. In a fantasy bond, a couple may operate as a unit, seeing themselves as safely joined, yet their relating becomes a matter of form and routine. No longer do they show much passion, love or respect for each other. Instead, they relate…

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Why Women Find it Diffiicult to Attach to Pleasure

Lisa Firestone: It’s also been my experience when people really feel the most joy or the most loving or close moments that it also brings up, it brings up more anxiety about death and loss— Carol Gilligan: It’s perfect. If I enjoy, like, how will I deal with death. But if I’m not enjoying, like, I might as well be dead right now. I remember when I was doing workshops with women with Kristin Linklater in what was called “Company of Women” and we d…

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How to Fix a Relationship

…engage in a “Fantasy Bond.” A fantasy bond is a term coined by Dr. Robert Firestone describing a state two people enter, in which they relate as a single unit. In this state, the couple stops seeing each other as autonomous individuals. They stop showing respect and love for each other and, instead, relate out of form. When in a fantasy bond, a couple will often start to project onto each other and relate to each other based on projections from t…

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Relationship Compatibility

…sychologist and author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, Dr. Lisa Firestone answers some fundamental questions about relationship compatibility. How would you define relationship compatibility? Relationship compatibility exists, first and foremost, when a couple relates with equality and respect. It’s important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together. Relationships thrive when two people share compan…

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Relationship Skills

…lfillment from sharing our lives with someone we love? I’ve asked Dr. Lisa Firestone, psychologist and author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships to help answer this question. What Relationship Skills Lead to Lasting Love? Non-defensiveness – Being open to feedback is one of the greatest relationship skills you can offer to your partner, and it is a great asset to any relationship. Instead of instinctively defending against any criticism or…

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