…us to hurt ourselves and those close to us in the present. It is an ongoing journey of self-reflection that helps us to reveal who we truly are and to know and love someone for who they are as well. Join Dr. Lisa Firestone for the CE Webinar “Working with High-Conflict Couples” on January 24. Learn more or register here. Read more about differentiation in Dr. Lisa Firestone’s latest book, The Self Under Siege…
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…find attractive. These thoughts make up what my father psychologist Robert Firestone refers to as the “critical inner voice.” This voice is like a commentator in our heads judging our every action. When we look in the mirror, it may start in with, “You’re so unattractive. Look how out of shape you are. No one would be interested in you. Just stay home.” When we go on a date, it may flood our heads with thoughts like, “What are you even talking abo…
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…us we are deficient. Voice Therapy is a technique developed by Dr. Robert Firestone that encourages people to identify and combat this Critical Inner Voice. Whether it is telling us that we are stupid to trust anyone or that we are simply unlovable, the Critical Inner Voice is at the core of many of our relationship woes. By being more attentive to our thoughts and emotions (including the Critical Inner Voice), we are better able to be attuned to…
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…ves of a cruel, internalized enemy, what my father psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone has referred to as the “anti-self” or the “critical inner voice.” We all possess an “anti-self,” a self-destructive side that tells us we are worthless, undeserving, or even that we shouldn’t exist. We formed this anti-self out of negative early life experiences, painful or traumatic events, and destructive attitudes directed toward us that we internalized. This “…
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…estructive inner coach, what my father, psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone and I have come to refer to as the “critical inner voice.” This internal enemy preys on any vulnerability or perceived weakness, telling us that we are nothing, that we are different, that we are less than, undeserving, or alone. When athletes start to feel separated from the world, they may start to listen to and increasingly believe the commentary of this cruel…
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…new book, The Self Under Siege, my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, and I write, “Vanity is a fantasized image of the self that is formed when parents substitute empty praise and a false buildup for the real love and acknowledgment they have failed to provide to their child.” Such parents leave their children feeling unseen and with a sense of pressure to be someone they aren’t. On the other hand, parents who are attuned to their…
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…his inclination toward form over substance is what psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone, refers to as the “fantasy bond.” This illusion of connection allows us to feel secure and attached to a person without having a real feeling of love for that person. We are less threatened by a “fantasy bond” then a real connection, as it allows us to feel that we are not alone or that we are taken care of, while diminishing the pain or vulnerability that comes w…
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[This blog contains excerpts from an interview with Dr. Robert Firestone by Fred Branfman, political activist and author of Voices from the Plain of Jars] Vulnerable: “A weak position, defenseless, helpless, exposed, at risk, in danger” Fred Branfman: In our culture the idea of being vulnerable is associated with being fearful, anxious, and weak. For example, politicians and business leaders tend to project an air of invulnerability. In contrast,…
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Here you can watch the live recording or view slides from Dr. Lisa Firestone’s December 6, 2011 Webinar “The Critical Inner Voice That Causes Depression.” To request a video recording of this Webinar, please contact [email protected] Download Slides from “The Critical Inner Voice That Causes Depression” Here Watch Dr. Robert Firestone describe the Steps in Voice Therapy: Recommended Books See all Upcoming PsychAlive Webinars Learn about upc…
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…eatment of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. In this interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone, Dr. Meichenbaum discusses the importance of both treatment and preventative treatment for individuals with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. He also addresses applications for the treatment of violent individuals in clinical practice. . A Gender Sensitive Approach to Violence Dr. Don Meichenbaum, PTSD expert, discusses an individuals journey from birth, to engaging…
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