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Eight Ways to Actively Fight Depression

…feel better: bake brownies, take a bath, listen to music. Act against the critical inner voice that tells you this won’t help. Remember its only purpose is to keep you from feeling better. Watch a Funny Show It may seem silly or all too simple, but anything that makes you laugh or smile can actually help convince your brain to be happy again. you look at depression as your critical inner voice having tricked you into feeling bad, then you can hav…

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Why We Lost a Lovable Genius: The Hidden Enemy in Suicide

…e was severely injured, she struggled to take actions to save her life The critical inner voices that suicidal people are experiencing are not based on reality. No one could imagine someone as well-loved as Robin Williams believing that he was alone or insignificant. Yet, this is typical dialogue of a vicious “anti-self” at work. Even the most beloved celebrity can find themselves listening to this inner enemy, despite its irrational and dangerous…

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Overcoming the Real Pain of Break Ups, Affairs and Rejections

…y are hurt, they start to have harsh attacking thoughts toward themselves (critical inner voices) that tell them they are unlovable, foolish, pathetic or living a lie. In fact, most of the distress that people suffer in relation to painful events in their lives is caused by what they are telling themselves about the event, in terms of the critical inner voice, rather than the event itself. When rejections hit, a person is likely to hear thoughts t…

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The Importance of Choosing Your Thoughts

…s. We are better able to consciously steer away from the directives of our critical inner voice. At first, this can be quite a challenge, as our critical inner voice has a way of slipping into our thoughts without us even realizing it. We may, for example, be sitting in meditation and start having thoughts toward ourselves like, “You don’t have time for this. You never get anything done. You are so useless. How can you be so lazy? Why can’t you do…

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A Time to be Grateful

…s do I enjoy being me? Gratitude interrupts your critical inner voice: The critical inner voice is the part of us that is turned against ourself. It is the defended, negative side of our personality that is opposed to our ongoing development. The voice consists of the negative thoughts, beliefs and attitudes that oppose our best interests and diminish our self-esteem. Acknowledging what you are grateful goes directly against the voice. Focusing on…

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Low Self-Esteem: What Does it Mean to Lack Self-Esteem?

…ombatting this negative self-image. The first is to stop listening to your critical inner voice. The second is to start practicing self-compassion. Stop Listening to Your Inner Critic The critical inner voice is that internal observer that hurtfully judges our thoughts and actions. This nasty inner critic continually nags us with a barrage of negative thoughts about ourselves and the people around us. It decimates our self-esteem on a consistent b…

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How to Cope with Missing People

…alized, cynical, or hopeless. In these moments, you may not be aware of a “critical inner voice” at work that capitalizes on your misfortunes. This “voice” may encourage you to be isolated by feeding you thoughts like, “Don’t bother calling your friend today. You’re too tired anyway.” It may put you down with thoughts like, “No one misses you. It doesn’t make a difference to them that they can’t see you.” It may fill your head with warnings like,…

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5 Ways Working on Ourselves Can Benefit Our Kids

…our kids feel good about themselves, we should work on conquering our own “critical inner voice.” This destructive thought process is built from negative experiences and attitudes that we’ve internalized. When we tune out our loved ones and start paying more attention to what our critical inner voice is telling us, we are more likely to engage in behaviors that can be self-limiting, self-destructive, or hurtful to others. Challenging our inner cri…

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Dealing Effectively with Depression

…inst them. They will learn how to help clients effectively challenge their critical inner voices, develop more compassion for themselves and strengthen sense of self. Learning Objectives: Discuss a cognitive/affective/behavioral approach for challenging the critical inner voices in depression Identify a client’s negative thought patterns and attitudes that influence depression Apply homework assignments and assessment techniques for identifying an…

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Challenging the Fantasy Bond

…d fear of those who have different beliefs and worldviews. The Role of the Critical Inner Voice In this updated text, I describe my expanded investigations into the dynamics of the critical inner voice which supports both the fantasy bond and a generally defensive style of living. I explain how hurtful, hostile and rejecting parental attitudes are incorporated into the child’s negative self-concept. This is the origin of a basic division of the mi…

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