…origin, we may carry these shameful feelings inside us and listen to self-critical thoughts or “critical inner voices” that put us down in regard to new relationships. These “voices” don’t just isolate us by criticizing us and diminishing our confidence but by tricking us into self-protecting. “Don’t trust her,” it says, “she’s probably using you.” “Stay home tonight. You don’t need the stress of going out and talking to people. Things are too he…
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…icky comparisons with someone you share life with can be the work of your “critical inner voice,” an internal commentary that tends to undermine you and your relationship. The person it takes the biggest toll on is you, and it can get in the way of your own loving feelings for your partner. Your critical inner voice can always find things that your partner could be doing more of, but you’re the only one you have control over in your relationship….
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…. The encouragement we feel to stay home or stay safe often comes from our critical inner voice. This inner coach offers self-soothing words, “Just stay in tonight and relax. You’re fine on your own. Have a glass of wine. Watch that show you like.” The problem with this voice is that it later turns on you with thoughts like, “What a loser you are, home alone again. You’ll be lonely the rest of your life. You’re not getting any younger! No one will…
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…because it forces us to acknowledge our partner as a separate person. The Critical Inner Voice – When we get into relationships there’s a lot of coaching going on in our heads that influences how we treat our partner. Our “critical inner voice” has plenty to say about us and our partner throughout the course of our relationship, particularly when we feel challenged or get scared. “She doesn’t really care about you. You don’t need anyone,” it shou…
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…esn’t even like you that much anyway.” When this happens, stand up to your critical inner voice. Don’t let it dictate your behavior and determine your future. You can challenge the critical inner voice by figuring out exactly what it is telling you and identifying what circumstances trigger it. Once we know what the voice is saying, we can begin to uncover where it may have come from and how we came to take on this self-critical point of view. Did…
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…Watch this short whiteboard animation to understand the Critical Inner Voice. Discover where the inner critic comes from and how to overcome self-attacks. To learn more about how to Overcome Your Inner Critic sign up for this eCourse….
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…cking with things when they get hard are all hardiness traits. Our fears of failure can limit us and keep us from living the life we want to. When we inevitably experience rejection or disappointment, we have to be hardy in our way of coping with these struggles. Overcoming our critical inner voice can be a vital step in becoming more emotionally resilient. We can learn skills to become hardier, and we can face challenges with fewer internal setba…
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…ound us. We even project these self-attacks onto others and think they are critical toward us or not attracted to us. We may notice that our self-attacks get a lot louder in situations where we become self-conscious of our bodies like getting out of the shower or going out at night. This Critical Inner Voice gives us instructions to hide our bodies. It’s the one that is telling us to leave on our tank tops at the beach. It’s the one whispering to…
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…ound us. We even project these self-attacks onto others and think they are critical toward us or not attracted to us. We may notice that our self-attacks get a lot louder in situations where we become self-conscious of our bodies like getting out of the shower or going out at night. This “critical inner voice” gives us instructions to hide our bodies. It’s that internal coach telling us to leave on our tank tops at the beach. It’s the one whisperi…
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