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VIDEO: Dr. Peter Levine on Sexual Abuse and Relational Trauma

…at’s harming us. So that creates a tremendous conflict. And I believe it’s critical to work both with the child, of course, but also with the parent. And even if the parent or family member wasn’t the abuser, they feel so much guilt and so much shame. Of course, the child feels so much shame. But one of the things, again, that works very well somatically — a lot we’re talking about touch. But a lot of times you don’t really touch, but we touch wit…

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Exercise: Who Do You See When You Look at Your Child?

…you over the other? How does your child feel about him/herself? Is he/she critical of him/her self in anyway? Does he/she feel self-conscious in any situation? Does he/she ever feel shy? Does he/she ever feel afraid? When he/she has nightmares, what are they about? What are his/her thoughts about death? Write a description of your child. When describing this young child, think about the traits that you are enjoying seeing emerge in his/her person…

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5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

…scared, we tend to pull away from our partner. We pick fights, become more critical, even react angrily to compliments or acts of love. More than anything, we start to withhold the traits that our partner once loved about us. We may stop being as affectionate or adventurous. We may resist engaging in activities we mutually enjoyed with our partner. Acting against being withholding means being willing to be vulnerable. It means engaging in shared a…

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Ethical Decision-Making in Psychotherapy On Being Moral, Ethical and Professional

…mponent of ethics — virtue. Defensive medicine often takes precedence over critical thinking, soulfulness and care. The moral life is not simply a matter of rigidly following rules. The moral life is a matter of trying to determine the kind of people we should be and of attending to the development of character within ourselves and our communities. After covering the broader concerns with ethics, virtue, morality, cultural relativism, etc., the co…

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VIDEO: Integrating Mindfulness into Psychotherapy

…erapist, you have a mindful therapy session. And then the client can learn how to be mindful just from being in the presence of their therapist. They can feel it and “soak it up,” as my mother would say. And so I think that it’s critical, it’s critical to be a mindful therapist and to have one’s own mindfulness practice. And as I said, it doesn’t have to be a formal sitting practice. It can be returning to the breath any time during the day. Sever…

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A Horrific Event – What Can We Learn From the Sandy Hook Shooting

…d with preplanned violence. However this story does bring to the forefront CRITICAL lessons in need of attention. First, children who have difficulty with social engagement need support! The issue of bullying has been on everyone’s mind and a focus of attention in our schools. We all want to care for children. However, what gets identified by a child as bullying, particularly those with social and/or emotional developmental challenges, sometimes i…

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5 Strategies for Dealing With Your Partner’s Fear of Intimacy

…dependent toward them. Our distressed behaviors may make our partner more critical, perceiving us as weak or clingy, and they may then pull back further. Alternately, a partner’s withholding may leave us angry or hardened against him or her. We may withdraw in response and become colder in our actions. Naturally, this too will leave us estranged and emotionally distant from each other. Talk about issues in non-heated moments When engines are revv…

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider – The Transformative Power of Awe

…eally, took away a sense of security. KS: Absolutely. And again, it’s that critical point between the possibility to come into the more of one’s own being, or the alternative of either total collapse or some tremendous defense against the unknown, the unpredictable. And I think one of the main differences between the two is that if people are able to come into the awesomeness of the experience more, there’s usually somebody there who has helped th…

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Is Being Proud of Your Kids Really about You?

…e is that it can come off as pressure. As parents, we can be demanding and critical or praising and prideful, but both sides of the coin can have the same effect; they can make our child feel pressured and disconnected from their own undertakings and accomplishments. Children may feel they have to achieve in order to win their parent’s love. They may feel the added pressure of the parent’s own expectations and how they reflect on their parent. Par…

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Are We Still Condemning Women for Their Sexuality?

…physical selves. As they reach adolescence and start dating, protective or critical attitudes from parental figures tend to teach young women to suppress or resist their sexuality. Everyone from their parents to their peers may be sending them the message that being sexual is synonymous with being a slut. Of course, not every woman is brought up with an unhealthy or repressive view of sex. Many young girls are well-educated and rightly taught to r…

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