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Can Attachment Theory Explain All Our Relationships?

…hat Leroi could tell his kindergarten tale. I could feel her softening her voice when she talked to him and watched her face turn gentle as she offered to help him with the seat belt. Beyond all the research linking secure attachments to everything good, attachment is connected to something so profound it’s hard to describe. The literature calls it “mentalization”; UCLA psychiatrist Dan Siegel refers to it as “mindsight.” Basically, it’s the exper…

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How to Help Yourself if You’re on a Waiting List for Therapy

…o approach each day with the intention of being kind to yourself. Approach inner criticism with nurturing and compassion.Have curiosity — what is that voice or part trying to protect you from? Perhaps you can get to know these parts of yourself in a way that’s more gentle. Another healthy way to deal with negative self-talk? Eliminate the word “should” from your vocabulary. Reduce isolation. If you are isolated or feeling lonely, consider some way…

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Why Can’t You Move on From Your Relationship?

…o fix it and feel better. This feeling is often magnified by the “critical inner voices” that they experience. They may have thoughts like “You are nothing without your partner.” “Now you will never be loved.” “You can’t stand this.” “You better get them back, no matter what you have to do.” In the cross-sectional study mentioned above it was found that “anxiously attached individuals may attempt to resolve the substantial self-concept impairment…

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Mindsight: The New Science of Personal Transformation

…our mind and our brain illuminates how the physical and mental world connect to construct and influence our relationships with the outside world. By learning techniques for exploring the inner workings of this “inner world,” individuals are better able to enhance and improve their relationships, their sense of self, their “mindsight.”…

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VIDEO: Dr. Kirk Schneider on Awakening to Awe, Gang Leader to Advocate

…in dances and ancient ritual and having them embody places that they wouldn’t normally at all experience. And that again got them in touch with a much bigger picture of living. And a kind of inner freedom that he was experiencing as well and wanting to share that, so I can’t over-emphasize inner freedom. I really feel that that’s the crux here….

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Just Live

…before based on what is soon to come. How many of us truly awaken with an inner understanding that everyday is a gift, and that tomorrow is not nor will ever be promised to any of us… Well…My wife and I do. In the 31 years I have spent on this earth, I have gleaned that no matter the struggles, the pains, and the amount of times we feel “broken” in this life, we are not here to simply get by in life, we are not here to go through the motions. We…

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Seeking Connection by Bonnie Badenoch, Ph.D.

…. Our contribution to this change is a willingness to connect with our own inner world. Once we become aware that we are not content with our relational choices, we can begin to notice the patterns that drive them. Implicit memories always show up as patterns – as ways that our bodies automatically move in response to offers of relationship, sensations that arise in our bodies, emotions that tell us whether to connect or flee, and perceptions of h…

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Minding the Brain by Daniel Siegel, M.D.

…ain sits. If you lift up your fingers and raise your thumb, you’ll see the inner brainstem represented in your palm. Place your thumb back down and you’ll see the approximate location of the limbic area (ideally we’d have two thumbs, left and right, to make this a symmetric model). Now curl your fingers back over the top, and your cortex is in place. These three regions—the brainstem, the limbic area, and the cortex— comprise what has been called…

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Suicide on the Rise – What We Do by Lisa Firestone, Ph.D.

…had made previous suicide attempts endorsed negative thoughts or “critical inner voices” that told them they were a burden to their family and friends. “You’d be doing your family a favor if you killed yourself.” (This has been labeled “perceived burdensomeness” by researcher Thomas Joiner.) Suicidal people tend to endorse thoughts on the questionnaire about being alienated from others, “You don’t fit in. You don’t belong. You just don’t matter.”…

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It’s not you, it’s me: The truth behind the excuse

…ionships and fears of intimacy, explaining how one’s defenses and critical inner voices negatively affect romance. I am always struck by how many people come up to me after my presentations to thank me and tell me that the fears of intimacy and defensive traits I have been outlining perfectly describe their partner. These people are essentially saying, “Yes, I know defenses are hurting my intimate relationship, but it’s not my defenses, it’s their…

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