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Can You Trust Your Own Perceptions?

…assuming that the co-worker doesn’t listen to us, that our spouse is being critical or that our child is out of control, we may want to consider that something else is going on inside us that has little to do with them. We tend to be extra sensitive to ways of being treated that hurt us in the past. We may even be looking for or misinterpreting interactions to fit in with an old way of feeling or seeing ourselves that, though painful, can feel com…

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7 Steps to Living the Life You Imagined

…t this anxiety and standing up to any self-critical attitudes or “critical inner voices” that arise is key in becoming your truest self. It’s essential to start choosing the ways you want to be. Think about positive traits you like in yourself that really express the person you want to be. Try to resist the urge to just go half way and really throw yourself into your goals. For the woman, that meant trying to stick it out and stay close to her hus…

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Break the Chain: How to Live the Life YOU Want

…g lasting and fulfilling change. Steps include: 1. Breaking with “critical inner voices” toward self and others. 2. Altering the negative personality traits that represent an incorporation of the aversive traits of one’s parents. 3. Identifying and letting go of patterns of defense formed as an adaptation to painful events in one’s childhood. 4. Developing one’s own values, ideals, and beliefs rather than automatically accepting the beliefs of oth…

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How To Create Healthy Boundaries That Work for You

…with a friend, a therapist or writing in a journal can help you find your voice. When you notice your feelings and thoughts, you can express them. Finding your voice means being able to put what you want in words. You may tell yourself, “I really wish I didn’t have to do all this so soon.” You may not be ready to say what you think. A good trauma-informed therapist can help you set the pace in stages. Say what you’re feeling to yourself first, th…

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The Self Under Siege: A Therapeutic Model for Differentiation

…by Firestone, is used to illicit, identify, and challenge the destructive inner voice and to change aversive behaviors based on its prescriptions. The theory they describe integrates the psychodynamic and existential approaches underlying Voice Therapy and is enriched by research findings in the neurosciences, attachment research, and terror management theory (TMT). An important addition to the area of personality development theory, The Self und…

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Healthy Relationships Matter More Than We Think

…rapy, people learn they are able to build a relationship where they have a voice, and that their voice is heard. Because I get to see this amazing journey happen for my clients, I can assure you that we can learn to love and form healthy connections as adults, even if we have struggled for a long time without them. It is Never Too Late to Begin Even if the world did not seem like a safe place as a child, you can change that today. You can be in ch…

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4 Steps to Help Your Partner Hear Your Concerns

…that matter, one thing we have to do is keep our inner critic in check. A voice in our head may be there encouraging actions that are counter to the open communication we are attempting to achieve. For example, if our partner gives us feedback, that voice may dramatize or exaggerate what they’re saying. It may cause us to turn on ourselves or our partner, because it makes us feel like we can’t handle any criticism. If we notice this inner critic…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Violence: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Complex Trauma and Cognitive Distortion: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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Dr. Christine Courtois on Incest: VIDEO

…ment and dissociation. Dr. Courtois discusses the concept of the ‘Critical Inner Voice’ and Voice Therapy. She addresses how families can be a source of trauma, citing that statistically speaking “the most dangerous people to children are their intimates.” Dr. Courtois places an important emphasis on the extent to which individuals often minimize complex trauma, essentially saying of their abuse “Aw, it wasn’t so bad.” She discusses trauma bonding…

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