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Stop the Blame Game to Improve Your Relationship

…my partner? Am I misperceiving him/her through the filter of my “critical inner voice?” Am I projecting negative characteristics of my early caretakers onto him/her? In improving any relationship, the focus should always be on empowering yourself. You can only change your part in the equation, but that gives you a lot of power. So what can you do to take charge and change the behaviors that are holding you back from getting closer? How can you ta…

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How to Stop Being a Victim

…can become aware of and identify specific destructive thoughts – critical inner voices – that promote victimized feelings; and they can take steps to develop more constructive approaches to dealing with their anger. Identifying Critical Inner Voices that Promote a Victimized Orientation to Life To move out of the victimized posture, it is important to identify critical inner voices that focus on injustices, such as “It’s not fair. This shouldn’t…

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True Love or a Fantasy Bond?

…pattern in her behavior. She began to consciously act against the critical inner voices in her head telling her to keep a distance and to resist affection. Relationship milestones like moving in together, getting married, having children, or even simply acknowledging affection for each other can lead a couple to feel a certain amount of anxiety. When people identify the emotional baggage they bring to a relationship that causes them to react in th…

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How to Not Feel Let Down This Valentine’s Day

…er be an excuse to indulge in self-attacks. Do not listen to the “critical inner voices” that tell you you’ll never find someone or that you’ve failed, because you’re not in a relationship. On the flip side, don’t let yourself harden to what you want in an act of self-defense. Try to recognize and resist thoughts like, “You’re so pathetic. Everyone you know is married already.” or “Who cares anyway? You don’t need anyone. Relationships are a waste…

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How Emotions Guide Our Lives

…motional reactions. We may experience what I often refer to as a “critical inner voice,” a negative internal commentary that tells us things like, “You made such a fool of yourself. Look at how they’re looking at you. They all think you’re an idiot. You should just get out of here.” This destructive inner coach often gets louder when we feel triggered emotionally. These critical thoughts can drive us to feel a range of emotions that are painful an…

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Finding Healthy and Satisfying Sexuality Through Self-acceptance

…explore the following subjects: Common self-critical thoughts or “critical inner voices” people experience around sexuality,their bodies, and wanting How subtle and unsubtle attitudes from family and society get internalized to influence how someone feels about themselves in relation to sex as well as what they’re attracted to in a partner Ways a person can feel more accepting, comfortable, and vital in their own sexuality How to move toward devel…

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Changing Sense of Identity

…h to revealing one’s true self. She will explain the role of the “critical inner voice” in holding us back and discuss how practicing self-compassion can change the way we see ourselves, making real change possible. She will explore Daniel Siegel’s concept of “selfing,” as a means to “surf the waves” of self and discover who we are. As Walt Whitman once wrote, “I contain multitudes.” This is true of each one of us. By looking into all the things t…

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7 Factors Affecting Orgasm in Women

…ts toward one’s body: Many women experience intrusive thoughts or critical inner voices about their body that interrupt the smooth progression of sexual excitement that typifies the arousal cycle of approaching orgasm. They can have self-conscious thoughts about their breasts: Your breasts are small. They’re not like other women’s breasts. Your breasts are misshapen. Or they may have negative thoughts about their genitals. Your vagina is too large…

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Recognizing “Blindspots” in Our Self-Perception

…t. We can keep our self-perception in check by: Taking charge of our inner critical voice. Remembering to be self-compassionate. Strengthening our self-esteem. Although it’s valuable to know that others may perceive us more positively than we perceive ourselves, it’s important to realize the limitations of relying on others to stand up for ourselves. We should make an effort to recognize our good qualities as much as we acknowledge the ones that n…

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