…of our many faults as well as those of our partner. Be wary of a critical inner voice telling us to be upset, suspicious and mistrusting. That voice may be saying things like, “Where is he tonight? I can’t believe he didn’t call you. He’s so insensitive.” Or, “All that she ever does is nag at me. Why won’t she just leave me alone?” These thoughts are rarely entirely accurate representations of our partners. Still, the more we react to them, the m…
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…nside our heads and seeks any opportunity to criticize us. These “critical inner voices” tend to multiply when we are left alone with our thoughts. The “critical inner voices” tend to be at their worst when we are not only alone, but are also feeling lonely. At these times, the inner critic tells us that something is wrong with us and we don’t belong around other people. In this sense, we are our own worst enemy. Being Alone Can Lead to Painful Lo…
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…ialogue that accompanies our feelings of insecurity known as the “critical inner voice.” By understanding where this critical inner voice comes from and how it feeds our feelings of insecurity, we can come to understand the forces that drive us to put ourselves down. In this presentation, Dr. Firestone will explain therapeutic steps to challenge and overcome the destructive inner critic that limits our lives. She will illustrate the value of pract…
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…can stop you from being an A-hole. It’s so true and here’s how. Our inner voices can be a real pain sometimes, critiquing us, telling us what we can’t do or what will go wrong if we try. We wouldn’t want friends that spoke to us this way, so why do we tolerate these voices? They create irritability which only goes onto reinforce the A-holes in our minds. As I mention in my upcoming book, Uncovering Happiness, this is a big part of what drives the…
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…nk we have another tremendously important application of this body of knowledge and this way of attending to and working with the organism and helping people contact that unspoken voice—the voice without words that voices that which is so profoundly wise and timeless and which will guide us back toward wholeness….
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…atterns we play out with our partner tend to be accompanied by a “critical inner voice,” which is much like a mean internal coach judging us, our partner, and our relationship. This “voice” can be an enormous distraction from staying present and open with our partner. “She forgot to take out the trash. She doesn’t notice everything you do around the house,” the voice suggests. “He’s working late again. You’re obviously not important to him,” it wa…
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…es down. Like most people, narcissists have an internal coach or “critical inner voice” that evaluates their actions. Their coach speaks to them with a soothing voice, telling them how great they are, superior to others. It tells them they must always be the best, the smartest, the most attractive, etc. However, when there is any challenge to their aggrandized image, the voice may turn and tear them apart, criticizing everything about them. When t…
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…in a depression. Fortunately, I knew enough to recognize that my critical inner voice had stepped in and that it was taking advantage of an admittedly negative event in my life to attack me. Even though it was attacking me about cancer, the underlying message was all too familiar: my body was defective and shameful. This was the same way I had felt about my body as a very tall and skinny young girl. I decided to challenge these negative views of…
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