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The Divided Self: Rejecting Your Inner Enemy and Reclaiming Your Real Self

…es limit and hurt individuals throughout their lives Recognize a “critical inner voice” that turns people against themselves Understand the division that exists in all people between a positive “real self” and a destructive “anti-self”Identify how early psychological defenses limit and hurt individuals throughout their lives Gain powerful tools to differentiate from one’s “anti-self,” so a person can reclaim who they are and what they want in life…

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Improve Your Mood Instantly

…nical toward others, which Dr. Robert Firestone refers to as the “critical inner voice.” I was left wondering when the subjects in the study were daydreaming, were they in fact absorbed in thoughts and “voices” that represented their anti-self? The critical inner voice undermines the ability to interpret events realistically, triggers negative moods, and sabotages the pursuit of satisfaction and joy in life. These destructive thoughts, which exist…

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The Scientific Approach to Changing Your Life

…ng, then punishing ourselves can be vicious cycle. We all have a “critical inner voice” that coaches us toward self-destructive behaviors that counter what we really want. “Go ahead and have another cookie. You deserve it,” the voice will whisper, when we are trying to lose weight. That same voice that lures us to steer off course, berates us when we fail. “There you go again, eating like a pig. You’ll always be a fat loser!” To help stop this sel…

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Making Love Last by Learning to Love

…right. 4) Fire the Coach in Your Head All of us are plagued by a critical inner voice, which provides an inner dialogue of destructive thoughts toward ourselves and others. These “voices” not only do damage to our confidence and self-esteem, they also wreak havoc on our intimate relationships. Through negative coaching, our critical inner voice encourages our defenses and diminishes our trust in others. Sometimes these thoughts come in the form o…

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Challenging the Fantasy Bond

…imagined connections and internally in the form of a disparaging critical inner voice. Dissolution of the fantasy bond and movement toward separation and individuation is essential for the pursuit of one’s destiny as a fully autonomous human being. The book describes how the fantasy bond acts as a primary psychological defense, partially alleviating anxiety and offering a false sense of security and safety. This revised publication stresses how t…

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5 Ways Working on Ourselves Can Benefit Our Kids

…feel good about themselves, we should work on conquering our own “critical inner voice.” This destructive thought process is built from negative experiences and attitudes that we’ve internalized. When we tune out our loved ones and start paying more attention to what our critical inner voice is telling us, we are more likely to engage in behaviors that can be self-limiting, self-destructive, or hurtful to others. Challenging our inner critic isn’t…

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Student Stress, Pressure and Self-Attacks: Interview with Dr. Daniel Zamir

…ongst students, as well as ways that students can challenge their Critical Inner Voice.   Debunking the Thought Process, “My grades define where I stand as a human being.” The following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with the Editor of PsychAlive and Dr. Daniel Zamir. Dr. Daniel Zamir: We have a group at UCLA called Finding Focus that’s about, kind of, ways to study smart. So it’s about time management and overcoming procrastin…

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Five Things You Can Do Today to Feel Closer to Your Partner

…arisons with someone you share life with can be the work of your “critical inner voice,” an internal commentary that tends to undermine you and your relationship. The person it takes the biggest toll on is you, and it can get in the way of your own loving feelings for your partner. Your critical inner voice can always find things that your partner could be doing more of, but you’re the only one you have control over in your relationship. When you…

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Overcoming the Real Pain of Break Ups, Affairs and Rejections

…chologist and theorist Dr. Robert W. Firestone, refers to as the “critical inner voice” to be the chief culprit in making break ups and affairs a matter of humiliation. While one would never think badly of a friend (or film star) who had been hurt by a significant other, rarely do people maintain the same standards for themselves. Instead, when they are hurt, they start to have harsh attacking thoughts toward themselves (critical inner voices) tha…

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