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How to Fight the Loneliness Epidemic

How to Fight the Loneliness Epidemic

…is a cognitive/ affective/ behavioral approach developed by my father Dr. Robert Firestone to help people identify and challenge their critical inner voice. When I’ve used this method with clients who are struggling with feelings of loneliness and isolation, here are some of the “voices” they’ve expressed having toward themselves: “No one really cares about you.” “You’re such a burden. Who wants to be around you?” “Don’t put yourself out there. Y…

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How Insecure Attachment Creates Fertile Ground for Addictions

…On-Demand Webinars     In this Webinar: This online workshop with Dr. Lisa Firestone will provide tools to help people heal insecure attachment, resolve trauma, integrate their… Learn More Viewing clinical issues through the lens of attachment theory has helped me enormously in my work with clients. Problems and dysfunction make perfect sense when viewed through this lens. Take my client Becky, for instance. (I’ve changed her name for confidential…

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What Really Goes On in the Mind of a Narcissist?

…discussed the critical inner voice, a concept developed by my father, Dr. Robert Firestone, as a destructive thought process formed from hurtful experiences that shaped our sense of self, others, and the world around us. This cruel internal coach controls the negative conversation and commentary that goes on inside our own mind. While for many of us, our critical inner voice is often self-destructive, putting us down, attacking, insulting, and un…

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Why Millennials Are So Lonely

…has it in for us. The language of this inner critic is what my father Dr. Robert Firestone has long referred to as the “critical inner voice.” This voice is like a sadistic internalized coach or commentator. It is always there to critique, punish, and undermine us. In many ways, it is a lens through which we filter our experience, and it is very much a contributor to our loneliness. It puts us down in relation to others, makes us feel awkward or…

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Kindness Wins!

…fering up bad advice. This enemy, with its negative point of view, is what Robert Firestone calls our critical inner voice. It speaks the malicious language of our defenses, and what it supports is not our loving, vulnerable selves but our destructive behavior and attitudes. It comments negatively on our lives and condemns our actions. It picks us apart and destroys our confidence and self-esteem. And it undermines our romantic relationships by cr…

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Changing the Way You See the World

…humans, are so divided. Many years ago, my father, psychologist and author Robert Firestone, developed the “Division of the Mind,” to help explain how each of us is split between our “real self” and our “anti-self.” The temperament we came into the world with impacts both sides of this divide, but our earliest experience and the adaptations we made to them contribute a great deal to the nature and degree of this division in our personality. On one…

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Cultural Stereotypes of Men and Women

…things which, if you thought about for two minutes, you wouldn’t say. Lisa Firestone: It makes men and women out to be enemies in a lot of situations too which really ends up interfering in relationships. CG: Not to mention how it, you know, [is] costing the world. But the other one is that, “Men have selves and women have relationships,” when, again, if you think about it for a minute, if you don’t have a self or a voice, you’re not in relationsh…

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VIDEO: Teaching Children to Be More Mindful

In her interview with PsychAlive Senior Editor Lisa Firestone, Dr. Donna Rockwell talks about The Hawn Foundation and the benefits of teaching children to be more mindful. Goldie Hawn started the Hawn Foundation and she’s very active in teaching children in school what she calls focusing because mindfulness is too scary or meditation is too scary. So, and this is another important point – they spend a lot of time with children working on their se…

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Why Women Find it Diffiicult to Attach to Pleasure

Lisa Firestone: It’s also been my experience when people really feel the most joy or the most loving or close moments that it also brings up, it brings up more anxiety about death and loss— Carol Gilligan: It’s perfect. If I enjoy, like, how will I deal with death. But if I’m not enjoying, like, I might as well be dead right now. I remember when I was doing workshops with women with Kristin Linklater in what was called “Company of Women” and we d…

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Relationship Compatibility

…sychologist and author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships, Dr. Lisa Firestone answers some fundamental questions about relationship compatibility. How would you define relationship compatibility? Relationship compatibility exists, first and foremost, when a couple relates with equality and respect. It’s important for couples to have fun together and really enjoy the time they spend together. Relationships thrive when two people share compan…

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