…keep holding yourself accountable in your actions. Dare to be your own person, and the rest of the world will reap the rewards. Join Dr. Lisa Firestone for the eCourse “Overcoming Your Inner Critic.”…
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…herapy technique developed by my father psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone. It is the basis of a book we co-authored titled Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice and the subject of many of my lectures, Webinars and my upcoming six-week eCourse “Overcome Your Inner Critic.” Why I have invested so much of my time and work into this subject is because what I have found in my 30 years of research and clinical practice is that, in almost all case…
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…ed and positive. However, part of us, a part my father psychologist Robert Firestone refers to as the “anti-self,” is against us. The anti-self is like an internal enemy that resides in our minds. It speaks to us through a series of self-critical, self-denying or even self-soothing thoughts known as the “critical inner voice.” The purpose of this inner voice is to hold us back from what we want and to keep us in our place, so to speak. The critica…
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…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. John C. Norcross. LF: So we’ve talked a lot about what works in psychotherapy. But can you say a little bit about what doesn’t? JN: Sure. We’ve been doing research over the last 10 or 15 years, trying to complement what works with identifying a consensus of what doesn’t. And most of this research has been done with Dr. Jerry Coucher. And the thought is, we…
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…following transcript contains part of an exclusive interview with Dr. Lisa Firestone and Dr. John C. Norcross. LF: And what do you think about all the new findings in neuroscience? Are they really informing psychotherapy or are they not so important? JN: Well, I’m excited by it. But my answer is, really; not much — and profoundly influencing it. The ‘not much’ comes from those of us who already believed there was a brain. I suppose if you started…
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…There are certain characteristics people can bring to their relationships that will drastically improve the dynamics between them and their partners. Psychologist Dr. Lisa Firestone explains some of the qualities people can aim for that will help them feel closer and more fulfilled in their intimate relationships….
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…What causes us to act the way we do in our relationships? Why do the words that come out of our mouths sometimes feel foreign to us? Dr. Lisa Firestone explains the source of some of our behavior in our closest relationships….
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…things which, if you thought about for two minutes, you wouldn’t say. Lisa Firestone: It makes men and women out to be enemies in a lot of situations too which really ends up interfering in relationships. CG: Not to mention how it, you know, [is] costing the world. But the other one is that, “Men have selves and women have relationships,” when, again, if you think about it for a minute, if you don’t have a self or a voice, you’re not in relationsh…
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…hat psychologist and Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships author, Robert Firestone calls a “fantasy bond.” A fantasy bond replaces real acts of love and affection toward your partner with an illusion of connection. In a fantasy bond, a couple may operate as a unit, seeing themselves as safely joined, yet their relating becomes a matter of form and routine. No longer do they show much passion, love or respect for each other. Instead, they relate…
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Lisa Firestone: It’s also been my experience when people really feel the most joy or the most loving or close moments that it also brings up, it brings up more anxiety about death and loss— Carol Gilligan: It’s perfect. If I enjoy, like, how will I deal with death. But if I’m not enjoying, like, I might as well be dead right now. I remember when I was doing workshops with women with Kristin Linklater in what was called “Company of Women” and we d…
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