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How to Keep Your Marriage Close and Exciting

…his inclination toward form over substance is what psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone, refers to as the “fantasy bond.” This illusion of connection allows us to feel secure and attached to a person without having a real feeling of love for that person. We are less threatened by a “fantasy bond” then a real connection, as it allows us to feel that we are not alone or that we are taken care of, while diminishing the pain or vulnerability that comes w…

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What is Love? Defining Love on February 15

…with, this person I love. Yet…can love be defined? And if so, how? Robert Firestone, Lisa Firestone and Joyce Catlett have tackled this question in a forthright manner in their book: Sex and Love in Intimate Relationships. “In the authors’ view, behaviors that fit the description of a loving relationship are expressions of affection, both physical and emotional; a wish to offer pleasure and satisfaction to one’s mate; tenderness, compassion, and…

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How to Find Your Happiness

…process of differentiation developed by my father, psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone. I explain these steps in more detail in my blog, “Becoming Your Real Self,” however to summarize they involve: Separating from destructive attitudes that were directed toward us that we’ve internalized Differentiating from negative traits of our parents and influential caretakers Breaking free of the old defenses that we built to cope with negative childhood even…

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The Price of Being Strong: Risks to the Mental Health of Athletes

…estructive inner coach, what my father, psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone and I have come to refer to as the “critical inner voice.” This internal enemy preys on any vulnerability or perceived weakness, telling us that we are nothing, that we are different, that we are less than, undeserving, or alone. When athletes start to feel separated from the world, they may start to listen to and increasingly believe the commentary of this cruel…

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How to Make Love Last

…as been replaced by an illusion of connection, or what psychologist Robert Firestone refers to as the “Fantasy Bond.” The fantasy bond is a mode of relating in which couples interact in a manner of form that enables them to imagine that they are close while maintaining emotional distance. Individuals in these relationships are acting on an unconscious fear of intimacy that influences them to not be vulnerable to their partners. Couples in a fantas…

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Why Domestic Violence Occurs and How to Stop It

…lusion of connection between a couple, what my father, psychologist Robert Firestone, has referred to as a “fantasy bond.” This dynamic feeds into a sense that another person can make you whole and is responsible for your happiness. These two dangerous belief systems set up an environment for abuse. While women are more likely to experience domestic violence, forms of abuse occur between all kinds of couples, whether of the opposite or same sex, m…

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Learn the CPR of Suicide Prevention Webinar Resources

Here you will find resources from Dr. Lisa Firestone’s September 11, 2014 Webinar “Learn the CPR of Suicide Prevention.” The slides from the presentation, video clips, books, films and additional mentioned resources are all available here. Missed the Webinar? Watch now: See slides from “Learn the CPR of Suicide Prevention” here See a full list of upcoming Webinars with Dr. Lisa Firestone, here * All Webinars are provided by The Glendon Associatio…

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Do You Confuse Admiration with Love? Tales of a Covert Narcissist

…apist recommended that I read Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice, by Robert Firestone, Lisa Firestone and Joyce Catlett. There I learned methods for challenging this compulsion. By working through the journaling exercises, I gradually modified my defensive ways of relating to men, which had included building up a relationship partner, which was a disservice to both of us. Here are some other insights I gained from reading the book that may be helpf…

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5 Things to Try Before You Give Up on Your Relationship

…ond.” A Fantasy Bond is a term developed by my father, psychologist Robert Firestone, to describe an illusion of connection many couples form at some point in their relationship. A Fantasy Bond differs from real love in that sincere acts of kindness are replaced by routine, and form is favored over substance in the relationship. Couples enter into this scenario without even realizing it, as a means to feel a false sense of security, an illusion of…

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Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice

by Robert W. Firestone, Ph.D., Lisa Firestone, Ph.D. Joyce Catlett, M.A. Conquer Your Critical Inner Voice: A Revolutionary Program to Counter Negative Thoughts and Live Free From Imagined Limitations offers means for dealing effectively with negative thoughts, attitudes, and beliefs that are barriers to one’s personal development, sabotage relationships, and interfere with career success. This book provides insights gleaned from 25 years of inve…

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