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Becoming Your Real Self: Shedding the Baggage of Your Past

…tential to be? How do we become our real self? My father, psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone, and I explain the steps in the process of differentiation in our new book, The Self Under Siege, which we wrote in collaboration with Joyce Catlett. Watch this Whiteboard Video on Differentiation The first step in the process is to identify the “critical inner voices” you experience about yourself, others, and the world around you. This critical internal c…

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In a Relationship with a Narcissist? What You Need to Know About Narcissistic Relationships

…oothing and self-aggrandizing “voices”) a component of what my father, Dr. Robert Firestone, refers to as the “anti-self.” They are very fragile, because the flip side of their self-aggrandized feeling is very low self-esteem, the other component of the anti-self (made up of extremely self-hating and self-demeaning “critical inner voices”). So, for these people, even slight criticism can be a narcissistic injury, leading to an angry outburst and d…

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Thanksgiving is Good for Your Mental Health

…ctions adapted from: Daring to Love, Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerability and Create Lasting Connection Tamsen Firestone with Robert Firestone, Ph.D. New Harbinger Publications, 2018…

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Understanding & Preventing Suicide

…reatment. The film includes a directory of resources on suicide prevention and information regarding publications by the experts featured in the program, including Dr. Lisa Firestone , Dr. Robert Firestone & Dr. David Jobes. Format: Instant Streaming or DVD Instant Streaming Rent $5.95 | Purchase $14.95 Buy Now Purchase DVD $29.00 Buy Now…

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Breaking Free From Bad Relationship Patterns

…wing on research from attachment theory as well as her and her father, Dr. Robert Firestone’s, concepts of the “critical inner voice” and “selection, distortion, and provocation,” she will explain why people are subconsciously driven to recreate dynamics from their past. Whether by choosing partners who make them feel old, familiar ways, repeating negative patterns they witnessed or experienced, or playing out half of a destructive dynamic, people…

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Are You Single for the Right Reasons?

…find attractive. These thoughts make up what my father psychologist Robert Firestone refers to as the “critical inner voice.” This voice is like a commentator in our heads judging our every action. When we look in the mirror, it may start in with, “You’re so unattractive. Look how out of shape you are. No one would be interested in you. Just stay home.” When we go on a date, it may flood our heads with thoughts like, “What are you even talking abo…

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Challenging the Fantasy Bond: A Search for Personal Identity and Freedom

…In this thought-provoking book, clinical psychologist and theorist Robert Firestone explains how the fantasy bond, an illusion of connection, develops early in childhood to cope with the pain and frustration resulting from parental misattunement, neglect, or mistreatment. It is manifested as a destructive internal thought process, the critical inner voice. Later, the fantasy bond is extended to family members, intimate partners, and social groups…

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How to Find Your Happiness

…process of differentiation developed by my father, psychologist Dr. Robert Firestone. I explain these steps in more detail in my blog, “Becoming Your Real Self,” however to summarize they involve: Separating from destructive attitudes that were directed toward us that we’ve internalized Differentiating from negative traits of our parents and influential caretakers Breaking free of the old defenses that we built to cope with negative childhood even…

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Accepting Our Anger During the Pandemic

…right in the brain.” Daring to Love, Move Beyond Fear of Intimacy, Embrace Vulnerability and Create Lasting Connection Tamsen Firestone with Robert Firestone, Ph.D. New Harbinger Publications, 2018…

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Where Does Our Love Go?

…n and spontaneity. This process is what psychologist and author Dr. Robert Firestone describes as the “fantasy bond.” A fantasy bond is established when real love, respect and camaraderie is replaced by an illusion of connection; when the substance of the relationship is replaced by the form. Couples are rarely aware of this transition, they just find themselves one day wondering where their love has gone. To understand why a fantasy bond is forme…

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