There’s nothing more frightening than the concern that someone you know may be at risk for suicide. And yet, suicide risk is a much more common crisis than many of us imagine. Worldwide, a person dies by suicide every 40 seconds. In the United States, the latest data shows the suicide rate to be at a 30-year-high, having increased by 24 percent in 15 years. In a given lifetime, all of us will encounter someone in crisis. From the person showing visible distress in a public space to, a friend who is struggling to cope with a break-up, to a close family member, they need us to be there and care. That is why it’s so important to know what we can do to help.

In the past I’ve written about the warning signs for suicide and helper tasks to reach out to someone in need. This month, in honor of National Suicide Prevention Month, I’m hosting a FREE Webinar with Dr. John Draper, the Director of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline to discuss “Effectively Saving Lives.” When I recently had the chance to speak to Dr. Draper, he told me about the Lifeline’s #Bethe1to campaign to encourage people to learn the steps they can take to help someone who may be suicidal. The five steps they outline are part of an effective, coordinated strategy embraced by researchers and experts in the field of suicidology. The steps are simple and straightforward. Learning them can make you more confident to reach out, and by implementing them, you can help save a life.

The steps include: 

1. ASK – It’s a serious misconception that asking someone about a suicide will plant the seed in their mind or make them more likely to do it. Research shows this just isn’t true. We can be direct when it comes to talking to someone about if they’re suicidal. Don’t be afraid to ask, “Are you okay? Are you thinking about suicide? How can I help?” Let them know you care by noticing, “It seems like you’re in pain.” Don’t be judgmental and really listen to what they have to say. Help them focus on their reasons for living. People can feel relief when they are asked in a caring way what’s going on.

2. Keep them safe – Stay with the person until you can get them help. Try to establish if they’ve taken any suicidal actions. Do they have a plan to take action? Have they thought about the means they would use? Try to remove any lethal means that they could use to hurt themselves. Do anything you can to put time and distance between the person and their method.

3. Be there – Feeling connected is one of the ways to help protect someone who’s feeling suicidal. Let people know that you are someone they can ask for help when they’re in trouble. Keep being a good listener. Help them identify who they can turn to for help and how they can keep connecting.

4. Help them connect – Get the person to the help they need. If they’re in immediate danger, you can take them to the emergency room. Help them find a counseling center or a therapist in their area. Make sure they have the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline number 1(800)273-TALK (8255). This is a free hotline available 24/7. You can even make the call with them. There are many resources, including text and chat lines and even phone apps (see the end of the article for a list of resources) that can help the person stay safe.