I am and it is exhausting! Anxiety, heartbreaking. And have been taking advantage of many times

I am positive you are my lost twin.

I have a lot of these qualities with picking up on people’s radar, as well as seriously picking up on their emotions. I also have problems with my family members with trying to express myself do I share this ability with them or will it be used as a weapon against me, this is my fear

I also could use a friend that understands what it’s like to live this life.

I’m positive anyone who has googled this, but also feels compelled enough to post their connection to this is someone like me. I know so much about myself and the world, yet I’m at a roadblock…. I never really believed in mystical stuff (and still don’t) and am not religious, but I feel like if I had a twin to help me or someone just like me to help me break-though I so desperately need.

Ok, So really really don’t believe in astrology or horoscopes, but I have been more curious about the history of it—Now I understand the whole concept of cognitive dissonance and all the other psychological reasons people buy into these things, but—long story short—I end up looking up my horoscope and while I still don’t believe in it the way General society does, I do think mine describes me (or empaths) exactly: https://cafeastrology.com/articles/piscesmanlove.html

I know, I feel insane for even reading that, but it does a good job of generally describing me, regardless of astrology AND i’ve interest in reading daily horoscopes written by baby boomers (or millennials) trying to sell magazines, papers, read their blog….but that one page describes me really well—and I’m going at I from a scientific perspective, but that also includes ideas that there are things in the universe we still don’t fully understand….

Some days I just wish I was more of a psychopath or narcissist, because the world as it is right now seems to reward those people and they are able to get things done without emotions getting in the way, yet then again, the last thing I want in the world is to be one of those people….

I don’t know..I’m all over the place with this post. it’s 2am , so i’m too tired to write it all pretty, yet I’m so sick and tired of being an empath….it used to make me so creative and special, but certain events led me to a bad place 5 years ago and I don’t know how to get my life balance back…

I don’t know, I have the tiniest hope of finding someone, maybe here—maybe someone like me who has found their secret out of an emotional void as is willing to post here and eventually reach out…I’m such an empath that even in my despair I hope its a mutually beneficial relationship that helps both of us get past a problem that each other has the solution…

Anyways —here’s to hope…

Thank you I’m glad to know I am not alone. Being an empath feels extremely lonely at times.

Reading your post hit me to my core. Read it three times because I recognized how much this is me, my feelings exactly on not being religious and all my thoughts. I feel like an old soul in a materialistic world full of selfish, self serving and cruel people. Being a Libra fits me perfectly because I’m all about balance. Not having family or true friends leaves a void in my life. I have learned to be okay being alone with myself. I’d much rather have a true friend, partner and love to share the journey of life with. Having someone else who understands, cares and shares openly to *grow with what we *go through. Been taken for granted, used, stepped all over and verbally abused by a narcissistic man. I felt so stupid when I found out what I’d gotten myself into with this man. He wasn’t the first, he was just the worst. It’s hard to accept the fact that I started going to therapy to find out what was *wrong with me* I went secretly to a therapist because I felt so mentally exhausted wondering why I couldn’t do anything right. I gave my all monetarily, physically, emotionally and even pleaded for him to tell me what I needed to do to “fix everything.” I wanted to fix myself so everything would be right. Lesson learned and on the bright side, I have learned to love myself and how to keep myself in check mentally, emotionally and physically. If I could only find someone who relates to being an empath.
Hanging onto hope…

How do
U balance it
I
Am so out of tune
Overwhelmed
Can’t
Get control
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This
Your with family friends crowds LOVER
AND YOU FEEL what they won’t say or u don’t have to hear what there saying cause u feel it
Lust,hate, contempt, manipulation ya da Yada
And one day u can’t manage Anything
You learn your families true feelings,mainly selfishness and greed.Always looking to take advantage and wondering Wth is wrong with her” me”
Relationship pfffft I’m a narcissist magnet or CONARTIST

IAM RELIGIOUS
It took a long time to
Realize people don’t think
It feel like
I do
Yeah this is so screwed grammatically and more but the
Tears and snot are
In my way who
Care at my end

I feel you. It is life controlling. Yet, sometimes I envy someone who simply doesn’t give two hells about another’s emotions or mindset because they can’t even see or feel it. They “take care of themselves” much more efficiently. Sometimes outside looking in, it looks so appetizing. ?

Thank you for the reminder. Its so easy to get lost in it all and forget why we’re really here.

Thank you for this article.

And for those that posted in the comments that are struggling with being an empath, I want to provide some of my experience…

Being an empath can be incredibly rewarding but you must protect yourself. It can be so draining. I spent decades depleting myself, feeling cursed or like something was wrong with me. Through acupuncture, meditation, yoga and guidance from some transcendence books, I have found ways to keep my energy up and still have more than enough to share.

The hardest thing to do is to learn to let go. To surrender to your empathetic abilities, to let other peoples energies simply flow through you and out of you, including your own thoughts and emotions.I don’t always have a lot of time, but meditation can fit anywhere, I do it on my way to and from work. I simply pay attention to my breath, any thoughts that enter my head, I just let them fall away. I don’t label them, I don’t agree or disagree with them, I don’t judge them, they’re like a cloud and I just let them float away. Return to simply being aware of my breath. When thoughts start appearing again, I noticed them but return to paying attention to my breath. I do this while standing in line at the grocery store, walking down the hallway at work, or any place where I can just simply pay attention to my breath even if it is only 5 to 10 breaths. Meditation can be that simple. It keeps me grounded. For an empath, this is so important, we get so lost and so overwhelmed. These simple meditations are like filling up your gas tank along your journey.

Some of the books I’ve read are “The Power of Now”, “The Four Agreements”, and “The Untethered Soul.” These books guide you on how to let go and restore your energy. Another important lesson I learned was to not take things personally. Being sensitive people, this is probably the hardest thing to do. Learn to let go of other people’s judgments and opinions, let other peoples problems and emotions flow through you and out of you. You can be there for them, and take on their energies which is helpful to them, and then you just simply let it go, do not hold onto it otherwise that energy can consume you and deplete you.

It amazes me how many empaths are out there, and yet we still feel very much alone. Take care of yourself. You are an amazing soul born with an equally amazing gift.

I couldn’t have said that any better.

wow… you even talk like me. all over the place but so dead on. I never in a million years thought if ever respond to anything like this I found on the internet but I looked up empath trying to better understand myself and while reading came across your post. I rather you reach me through facebook instead of my email if that’s possible. just look up nikki kenworthy. I have a couple facebooks one that I cant get into anymore so maybe message them all with something brief and I’ll see it on mine.. if you want

You are so not alone even though you feel you are at times. I’m two days in to acknowledging that I’m an Empath. It’s like a mysterious closed door in my life has just been opened…..the journey has just begun. Big hug to all you guys out there.

This is not only enlightening to read but hilarious in the sense that I think this sounds exactly like me also ! I’m sitting here like “whoa did I just stumble upon the others?” haha. To this day and time, I have also never responded to a single Internet forum/whatever you want to call it,such as this. And Tim, I think those certain events you mentioned were just tests and the usual daily nonempath attempts at destroying your peace of mind. We can easily lose ourselves and when we let it spiral too far , we become further away from our empath traits which make us so creative and special. But it can and will come back with repeated self care and introspection! (In my experience).

Hi Beth,
I am a empath also I find myself always trying to help people especially kids, old people, handicap, dying people and animals. I find that people are drawn to me in need and I to them. However it seem that I’m always viewed as having some ulterior motive. I meet up with a lot of peoples vultures when i’m tying to help them and wind up in situation where people feel threaten that the individual i’m helping is getting to attach to me, which makes them feel threaten if there is some type of financial gain to be gotten. Also I feel what people are feeling. I can walk into a room in feel energy. I can tell weather I’m welcome or not. I can also be around a individual and feel what they are feeling. I can tell if they like me or not. Must of the time I try to dismiss it and continue on. I use to think I was tripping but not any more. Although I still find myself trying to ignore what I know is the truth, because sometimes I don’t want the truth to be true. It’s still a struggle and still a learning process. Sometimes I know things and try to share them with a individual, but I can’t because there is know physical proof, so I stopped. I may suggest a warning and stop. When I go further it always back fire on me in some kind of way. Some times I watch and when whatever it is happen. I stand by in support of what I knew.

I’m glad I found this article. This has described me perfectly. I have always known I was different. I was not very accepting of this in the beginning but now I cherish it. Because of my ability to sense feel and interpret a another person’s mental and emotional feelings so intensely has changed me for the better. I use to think I was unable to connect with anyone on a higher level. Only after surviving a traumatic and near death event did I begin to truly understand, embrace, balance and share this beautifully intense gift. I have also learned a more effective way to explain what my life is like on a daily basis. I simply express that my life would be best described as an emotional rollercoaster that I was afraid to ride and left me completely helpless of ever making sense of it. Though now I’m embracing the most overwhelming beautiful chaotic sometimes devastating intensified yet calming cluster of emotions that make it worth feeling like a beautiful disaster. I have been blessed with meeting others like myself that leave me feeling complete and one with this courageously spiritual quest better known as life. I am also a very intense and overly expressive speaker. That’s of course when I meet someone willing to stay the course and let their soul connect with mine for a minute yet additively enjoyable ride. The few who withstood my storm of emotions have always come back to just enjoy things on a level few can only experience through one perfect experience of levels most could not even fathom. I enjoy who and what I am. I am a being unable to ignore or take for granted life in grandest sense. Thank you for allowing me to share a little about my life living outside the box. Inner peace is the ultimate freedom.

This is so me. I think I know now what my “problem” is.

I’m here .

I was at a pre Canada gathering last night and after about half an hour I felt like crying but I didn’t. I was in a cafe watching all the people and tried to distract myself by looking on the Internet instead but I was drawn to the people and sat outside and just watched …and felt and it was too much .too many people. All of them seems joined by lines or cables leading to me. Some were so angry and hateful while others were enjoying themselves and I focused on those ones but one angry man walked up and past me and that did it. I left, went home and felt relief but tired and napped. I still see the lines and people though .that was the first time for the lines . Usually if I encounter someone it’s just 1 person.i can handle them if they are calm but…lately I feel a need to touch them to tune in or get inside them more. Angry people I need to stay away from.its like being physically hit when they are near.

I’m getting close to 60 and this feature or mine is growing.
Soon I wont be able to be around anyone.
But I have my bicycle, parks, Internet and an amazing imagination I’m told.

i am an Empath as well. i didn’t know until i read about it recently. it can be very draining if you don’t find balance. i tried over correcting with narcissistic thoughts but found that just made me unhappy. i thought this is nuts, what is wrong with me? well nothing is wrong with me or any one else here. being an Empath is a gift you can use. first find a way to recharge, i use meditation. there is an app called Calm it works well. then pull yourself up by the boot straps a realize your gift. you can…
you can imagine yourself in someone else’s situation which means you can see things from another perspective. this is a useful tool in solving problems. it also means you are able to connect with a diverse group of people, reach across gender and racial barriers to connect emotionally and anticipate their needs, this is what turns a leader into a great leader or a speaker into an inspirational speaker.
you do have to protect yourself from negative people, groups and situation but the trick is to see the negative coming and remove yourself. surround yourself with positive and for your sake RECHARGE!

I do!! ?

The ultimate empath does too, Christ! Our only hope! We are called to greatness! Go empaths!!!!!!!

Signed ~ One empath to another

I am so confused! I have been told that I’m an empath a few times. I do have a lot of the personality traits describing an empath, yet I still question whether I am or have I just become who I am because of the circumstances of my life? I don’t want to make this into a full blown novel so I will minimize as well as possible. Born to highly intelligent, socially powerful women who was extremely abusive mentally and physically. Taught us we were not worthy of being loved. Yet my grandparents and siblings loved me so why not her. F4 tornado blew me away from her and my senior year, living with grandma, I felt happy and loved. Married a man from a loving family who turned out to be just like mother. 4 beautiful children, my whole purpose for living. Worked so many hours and missed so much of their lives ( husband didn’t like to work) I knew someday they’d realize how unworthy I was and they’d quit loving me too. At 16-my son was diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. After he died, I ran away, got divorced, met 2nd husband, LIVED, was loved, learned not to be afraid!! 5 years of greatness!! Car accident, his passenger was killed, went to prison. Next 5 years I visited every weekend. He died there-in my arms. SO-do I feel things so deeply because I’m an empath or because I can associate with so much pain?

Have been bartender 41 years, still working at 69. Often feel I am where I am because I’m supposed to make sad people happy, downtrodden people-hopeful. I am a hugger and people seem to absorb my hugs. Lonely people seem to gravitate towards me, Confused people come to me for comfort. But it’s so DRAINING

For years, I have wondered, “what is wrong with me?”. I have these feelings of worthlessness because I’m constantly belittled or have my niceness taken advantage of, or unappreciated. This leads to depression and a sense of unimportance. I was attending a church where I could really feel the emotions of others and would come home crying because I could sense the lack of love and compassion among the congregation. I had even began having panic attack’s. I left and found a church that is the most loving place ever! The only problem is that it’s a church with a large congregation and being in a crowd is often unpleasant but it allows me to often move about relatively unnoticed. Being unnoticed is probably the best thing about it. I was googling the definition of empath and found this group and I’m glad I did. After reading everyone’s post, I’m more confident.
Thanks for posting.

I now know why I wake up to achieve but can’t move past being overwhelmed. I also feel like damn, here is the answer why you care about Others more then you care about yourself, my dad told me on his death bed, the only issue I have is that you do more for others then you do for yourself & you need to STOP. Problem is I can’t stop my heart won’t let me. I fully understand it all, it took 44 years to find out WHY! I have a heart of gold & keep attracting the same people over & over.
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Ditto for me on choosing inappropriate (narcissists) as partners, thank u 4 putting into words as it gels for me when I see the words rather than just thinking about it. Just recently put my experiences into action, finally, by just saying no. It’s never too late to set YOUR boundaries.

I totally relate to your statement. I’m also a Pisces. I’m negative about myself, yet I know I’m worthy.

I’m told my anxiety lies to me, makes me think people are against me. But I think I’m picking up on vibes. Lots of jealous people in the music scene. It’s tough to be so over sensitive that I’m totally wiped out no matter what I do or go. Even if it was a wonderful time. It’s hard to deal with so I don’t get in a relationship because I don’t want someone to have to put up with my issues. I also don’t want to deal with someone else, take care of them, ya know? Peace….Valerie

Omg Gina THANK You for your post and everyone!I can relate to everything you just said and I’m so glad their are more of us. I knew something was different about me for years and I feel like I can function properly now that I’ve educated myself, with being an empath. I could never identify who’s feelings or thoughts I was struggling with as I couldnt differentiate mine from others near by me and it exhausted me.im so sensitive and I sometimes wish I didnt have to feel everyone’s pain an anxieties but my purpose is to make others feel better so they don’t ever have to feel the way I have. People are drawn to us because we are healers and they feel safe with us, but try not to let them unload issues to much as we can become emotionally exhausted from their sad feelings.

Finally. It all makes sense. Every empath test I took I scored almost 100 on every one. I have been different my whole life – hearing the words before they are spoken, bad energy in a room, going off by myself to recharge from two years old, people telling me I’m too sensitive, getting easily hurt, other people’s pets sitting at my feet- it’s exhausting. But it’s also a gift. My emotions have been so strong and sometimes difficult to control. I only found this out after understanding I was married to a narcissist who almost destroyed me. I feel so validated now. Wow.

“You’re just too sensitive, Gayle,” is a phrase I have heard during all the 65 years of my life; from my family, my teachers, my friends and my husband of 46 years.
Yet, when and of them were in trouble, they turned to me. I listened to their darkest fears and most terrifying memories. I held their hand and swallowed their darkness. I never disclosed what they confided in me.
My “Heart’s Soul,” (husband), still gets angry when I finish his sentences and hear what he is thinking.
My strength has always come from nature. She is cruel, but kind, She plays no favorites. Yet her world is heartbreakingly beautiful. I have four acres of wood behind my house that I walk in every day. I close with the first stanza of Edgar Allan Poe’s “Alone.”

From childhood’s hour I have not been
As others were—I have not seen
As others saw—I could not bring
My passions from a common spring—
From the same source I have not taken
My sorrow—I could not awaken
My heart to joy at the same tone—
And all I lov’d—I lov’d alone—

Gayle Elaine Rice Roberts

I am 21 years old and have always, for as long as I can remember, been afraid to speak about the overwhelming energy and presence I experience on a day-to-day basis. I am replying to your comment in specific because I think what I have found out, and in all honesty haven’t fully admitted to myself, is that amongst all of the doctors I have seen, medicines I have been prescribed, mediums/empaths I have spoken to about my experiences, the ONLY thing that has been able to close the door to the “bad” energy is closing my eyes and asking Jesus to catch it for me. I’m not sure if praying has ever truly helped you or if it’s been more of a last resort attempt to make the anxiety go away, but coming from a college student who was not raised religiously and is actually quite good at pretending like I’m normal and strong the only thing that has helped me see that this is a gift is God. He takes away all the bad for me and I know it sounds crazy, but it works. To add to this, try to ask yourself what kind of potential these abilities could give you if you looked at your life in a different light… try asking, if you are open to praying, why God gave you this gift. You are very special and I think instead of asking PsychAlive’s audience why these things are happening to you and pointing out all of the negative effects that come from your situation, you should try asking the One that gave you this gift in the first place some questions. I am curious to see what He answers. Just a thought 🙂 you may be surprised. xoxo

I feel the same way. I have been a loner all my life.
Now I know I am not crazy for not wanting to be a round a large crowd. I can feel how another person is feeling when I am around them. It is very draining.

Thank God for this special gifts of being 100% Empath,80% melancholy and 20% choleric which all combine to help me discover my life callings which is base on service to humanity.I am called to be a unique ARCHITECT in order to protect our natural environment with sustainable design,an ENTREPRENEUR to solve our contemporary commerce problem and a great LEADER to liberate,gather and carry my people to our destined purpose in life. Good to be a gifted person with clear goals and strong guiding principles but one thing i lack: A TRUE HELPER WHO UNDERSTANDS AND IS WILLING TO WALK WITH ME.

If you can find anyone like us or a group (ha) please let me know i am so tired of people using me and lying when i know they are. Cant trust anyone. I need to find people like me. Please help i need all the info i can get

I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m in my early 60s and from a young child my Mother closed me down. Only in the past few years do l know who l am. A natural, born Empath and HSP. I have a few Claire’s. All natural. I’ve never developed myself, never need to. It would be nice to hear from other Empaths.
Only me in my family are an Empath, but my Mother and daughter are psychic, naturally.

That could be me!

Amen…

Hi everyone! I’m an empath too. I’m 53, and most of my life I’ve been told I was over-sensitive and/or emotional. It’s only been a few years back that I realised that I was not just sensitive about my own feelings, but also to those of others. I realised that it was a positive trait because I am very considerate about others’ comfort and well-being, and to their feelings.

I have tried to be less sensitive and less openly emotional, but sometimes I’m caught off guard.

I’m an introvert and although I really like people, I cannot be with people all the time, nor can I be with too many people at the same time. I really need my downtime alone, to recharge.

I’m also highly intuitive and have had a few “insights” or premonitions concerning people I’m close to.

I was a teacher in higher education for many years, but have taken a break now and I’m studying Counseling Psychology. Now I’m not so sure if I want to become a counselor, because I can see how the profession could emotionally drain me, but I am also naturally drawn to helping people. So, a little lost career-wise, but I also trust the Universe will show the way, as it has done all my life.

I do have a handful of very close, dear friends, and I am aware that many people like me. However, I miss a soulmate on this journey of mine, but the scars of a bad marriage and the intrinsic fear as an introvert of losing my “space, are probably blocking the person from materialising.

Happy to read (most of) your posts here.

Bam ,never put all this togtogether before , damn know It makes sence so much ,for me the good is when empath requires me to care too much . The other side is the strength in reatcting to ppl with negative thought energy . As we die with ppl Dailey for thier hurt . But I also feel ppls negative energy with equal volition . It’s a life lessons that I just looked up cos I didn’t know what I now know is my , “type” would sigh any tips advise leanings finished anything F.B Angus Fields

I agree that being a empath is very exhausting and an emotional rollercoaster. I was told by my boyfriend last night that I was an empath so, I looked it up and its crazy because, I didn’t know something like this was real. But, I understand why after I have been around large crowds or in church services I just want to hide from people and just be alone because, I need to recharge myself. Now, I don’t feel so crazy.

If any wants to talk them can get me on Facebook under my name 🙂

How’s life treating you ?!

I’m 100% so luckily I came across this website I finally found people who think the same as me and wondered why I’ve felt like an outsider all my life no one understands me or they half do but that’s because I tone down half of what I’m thinking or feeling ! Feel free to add me on fb also 🙂

I experience the same things in every word you just typed. It’s ruining my life and my job. How do you cope? Help me please? I’m begging you

Suffering the pains of others to such a degree that it makes us introverts, sick and depressed prevents us from being of value to our loved ones and fellow human beings. We all need to be valued. When I finally understood this and that there is someone who already suffered for me and all my fellow humans then I was able to unburden myself, find joy and provide empathetic support to others and stay effective and mentally healthy in all my relationships. I discovered a foundation of joy under my anguish and depression.

I didn’t hear about. The term empath until about a year ago when I read it in a medical journal. All of a sudden I realized all the characteristics that had set me apart from other people since I was a child were all attached to being an empath. I also realize that two of my three children are empaths as well. My mom certainly has some characteristics but as she’s gotten older and has had more physical issues she has kind of gone to the Darkside I guess of being an empath. That makes it hard For my daughter and I when it comes to having a relationship with my mom at times. I am currently getting out of a 29 year marriage With a narcissist. I went back to college I studied psychology as a concentration and never even saw the signs that he was a narcissist. I was in complete denial and unaware of the codependency that was occurring. All of this was occurring because I was just trying to be a peacemaker. I married into the relationship with two young children and all I wanted was for us to become a family after my third daughter was born and the older girls became teenagers the normal conflict started to occur but he would break out in an out rage over some small decision or some chore and all I wanted was everyone to just calm down take their corners take a deep breath and start over. My health has suffered as I have severe G.I. issues that have required three surgeries as well as fibromyalgia. I have now found who I am and I am embracing it and learning to set boundaries. When people get things such as gifts or a note or a phone call or a text from me and they say how did you know? I always say I pay attention. And I can’t understand why no one else does. So I guess that’s my hyper Sensitivity. I don’t feel overwhelmed and crowds unless the crowd is exceptionally negative but if it’s very positive it’s almost as if that refuse my energy. I am currently starting to date someone who thinks I’m absolutely beautiful and wonderful and wants to know every single thing about me and I have my guard up and I don’t know how to put it down with the exception of telling myself every single day that I am worth happiness and I am worth being loved and I need to start with myself. I’m also very open about being an empath with him so that he understands Better who I am. Would it be great if there was some huge convention of empaths absolutely I think we can solve world peace and world hunger and get rid of all the hateful people in this world and find better ways to rehab those that are in prisons and get our government street but more so just so that we can get together and realize that were in my purse sensitive beings who are special people on this earth for a reason. Have faith in my fellow empaths and don’t forget to love yourself.

Omg that sounds just like me, I have just got out of a 21 year relationship with a malignant narcissist, I’d heard the word but only came across the meaning of it after I kicked him out and was reading about abuse, once I read about narcissism, I cried as everything fell into place, I also disturbingly read that narcissistic abuse can cause the victim fibromyalgia which I was diagnosed with 7 years ago 😞 that was enough to cut all ties though I have children with him, he was pure evil, I (like many others probably have done with their narcs )always felt sorry for him, I also have learned I am an empath and I want to make myself strong.

Yes we are a perfect tragic match, we want to help them and fix them and help them change, I was helping him get into therapy after a breakdown, after I’d kicked him out ! I actually was the only one helping !) one minute after he chatted to them they told him I’d saved him and he was upset that the childhood abuse had affected me and the children further down the line, next minute I was hated and there was nothing wrong with him and I was just making him think he had a mental disorder to get it documented if it was needed in court over the kids !!! Woah !! Paranoid !! I really thought it was all because of his abusive childhood.

You are who you are

My mother would tell me all the time

Never change who you are just do your best to understand yourself

Beautiful encouraging words. What an insightful mum.

That was really great to read thank you

oh Jennifer, You sweetheart, Thank you for your sweet uplifting words of confidence.
Yes , surprise, surprise…. I too am in the process of leaving my narcissist husband who had a terribly abusive childhood. But how come it took me so long to figure it out?
Now all his lies are crashing in on me … its like glass breaking . .. all the lies.. things that I ignored at the time… cascade of realisation … all the excuses i made for him…
what made me protect him for so long? .. I’m trying to learn about me … because right now I’m not trusting myself very much!

I think a lot of you have confusion about what an empath is. We know and feel shit way before it happens. It’s like the universe is made up of energy and for whatever reason is attracted to us and sends messages.

It’s super fucking stressful, even if you know how to block and protect yourself. Empathy is walking through Walmart and picking up the emotions of every being in the place.

Empathy is having a conversation with a stranger and knowing everything about them, not being able to say a damn thing while trying to keep the two streams of energy straight so you don’t fuck up and say something you shouldn’t know.

Empathy is walking through a place where people died and knowing how, when, and why they died. Empathy is hearing a person say one thing while hearing what they’re really feeling. It’s a constant balancing act.

Whatever I am be it empathy or other I also hate it. I just ever wanted to be a normal human being. To just do & be what I want. It’s a terrible thing when your forced to feel things that aren’t yours. I’ve been dealing with this my whole life. For me it’s caused me nothing but problems in health & in my life. It causes you to be depressed & lonely. It’s been nothing but a hindrance for me. I have no problem admitting the things, thoughts, emotions that come with being like this but I know that it does not agree with me. Some can welcome it & it absolutely makes them feel whole. But for me it has never & probably will never benefit me. When some unknown force or emotion enters my body it feels all wrong & therefore I know it doesn’t belong there. It’s not just about negative energy or opening yourself up these forces or the universe. If you’ve had trauma in any way it exacerbate these symptoms.
Others may benefit but some of us are left with nothing but our hell.

Hi it us hard to change who and what you are but don’t buy into that thougbt. I am an empath and struggled to find out my whole life to find the answers . My heart and soul goes out to other empaths. It is the most beautiful trait to feel and care for others but you must protect yourself from negative energy. Your thoughts and feelings can be changed when you eventulaly realize you must love and care for yourself first and formost. We can be much happier and at peace and still embrace this gjft. Regards to all.

Smartest thing I’ve ever heard. Everything beautiful is a bi product of that surely?

I always said it was a blessing or curse. I absorb emotions. I can read a person upon first glance. For years I repeated, unknowingly that I’ve been gifted yet cursed. It brought me to dark places. Places I didn’t want to be in. Alone. I called it shutting people out. I drank to much. Not understanding why. That’s a subject all to itself. I debunked the argument. To me it’s a decision. It wasn’t until just a few months ago. I quit drinking. I detoxed myself. I had already been to detox twice. I renew my faith. I changed my denomination because I wasn’t getting enough and I needed to engage more. I just recently learned what an empath is. I read 1-2 percent. I also read ambidextrous about 10 percent and blue eyed 8 percent. I’m not cursed. I’m blessed. I’m facing every day challenges with arms open. No more self destructing. My ability to talk to people is second to none. I can finally help people. It’s a matter of accepting who we are and our unique abilities.

I crave to not feel sometimes, and the universe just keeps sending me people who need help. I’m trying to stay strong for my girls while my husband is deployed but it’s just so hard.

Just now! For the first time of so many WONDERS ANSWERED ! I NOW DON’T FEEL THE LONELINESS THAT VERY VERY MUCH HAD CONSUMED ME !!!!
JUST REBORN TODAY… I LOVE LIfE AND HAVE ALWAYS HIGHLY KNOWN OF HOW BLESSED I WAS AND CURSED I AT THE SAME TIME.. THE GIFT WAS SO STRONG AND EXCELLED TO A POINT OF SOMETIMES OVER WELMING at times.. But also extremely entertaining for injoyment of the gift. That i was highly Intuitive of this gift and aware of the ability to see mass amounts of information from a perfext Stanger to the point of extremely entertaining my extremely receptive mind abilitys.. With out knowing what was going on with this ability about what I highly sensed that i referred privately to myself as a superpower.. I highly keyed in on how to balance the lonelyness of the curse that comes with this ability. At times I took advantage of all the normal people that I can’t relate with by using this highly Excel gift to sometimes f*** with people also … HEAR THIS !! This is one of the most important things that I have to share That I never could before because Most people don’t have the mental capacityOr capability to even comprehendThe things that I could never share! Until now.. Miking senses were so strongAnd excelled to the point of letting a person into my lifeFor the only purpose of using my secret abilityAnd gift Of being able to see into other people. And with heaven that ability I was able see To the super unnatural excel point of Changing their life for ever By using my extremely adapted abilities.. I always knew I could never keep a relationship just because of what I never knew what it was but always sensed and because I did Realise and understand the extent of the blessing and the curse I knew I could never ever keep a relationship… And this is why I would take on a relationship Artie knowing that wasn’t gonna last. But just for a project knowingWhat the abilitiesThe level that I have gripped.. I’ve helped open normal people’s World In the direction of a blessed and positive techniques… To elaborate what I am actually talking about And what I have learned a lot of normal people have a lot of things that are around them Psychologically that are not aware of And are limited to the capability of even sin but through a person like me that is able to see the s*** that I shouldn’t be able see.. But I Have learned how to use it on other people in great ways… In ways that have changed their life forever In a very beneficial positive way… And the reason why do this, From the overwhelming lonelinessThis has given me a sense of satisfactionTo help balance out The cursesThat comes along with the blessings .. and if you are somebody that has read this whole thing I just want to let you know for the 1st time today’s the 1st time ever that I for the 1st time had put a name on this..

If you’re a Narcissistic, beware, running into an advanced Empath could be your worst nightmare.

Just saying.. Dennis Johnson

This was extremely helpful; my therapist tells me I have the problem of taking on peoples’ emotions, to the point of having second-hand trauma, and this article really helped me understand what’s going on with me. My emotional intake can get to the point of stress hives and just breaking down, not very enjoyable. But at least now I why I feel this way!

This!!!!!❤️❤️❤️

YES ME!! ive known at a young age something was different about me i remember being in furst grade having that feeling of not fitting in. not because kids didn’t except me it was me withdrawaling from them my mother was a single parent and we were poor growing up in low rent apartment s. i always thought god protect me because our struggles. i can look at someone and kniw without them saying a word if that person was a bad person. i always knew if someone was being hurt or needed help and i feel like a magnet with everything in the world animal plants people today i was added soal to my plant s. and i went to open the bag of soal a this little frog that was in the bag jumped on my hand just chilling out looking at me crazy crap like that happens to me all the time its nice to read that im not alone it seems like i was the only one until now reading everyone s comments was comforting and me writing all of this and not being or feeling ashamed or different. Thank y’all for sharing

god bless you ,but we suffer alone so much , i wish there where groups we could go to ,so we could help each other

I wonder how it came to be which people would be empaths and which would not . I am so drained. Yet so aware of myself as well as others so much that its a to a fault bc either o completely relate to all the less than ideal energies i am often drowing in from everyone i know or this extreme awareness in understanding human psychology and logical reasons to explain how or why someone might be such a narcissistic asshole or cold hearted aelf absorbed prick, that alot of times if these negative ways are directed at me well then somehow my strong mind and heart and deep understanding of the ways of the world n shit sorta make the poor treatment i may have endured wrongfully and the need for a sincere apology absolutely dissipate despite wishing it would still happen so closure and healing could take the reigns ….idk ..I swear im so damn overwhelmed and exhausted. I even had a stroke 2 years ago on the 19th of this month . It was 19 days after my 39th birthday.. stress anxiety and depression can create some of the most absurd outcomes for the most normal of life events and the not so normal just the same..

Same. I’ve only ever known the curse part but I have just now learned what an empath is and already I feel like there’s hope just from being able to finally identify what it is that I’ve always recognized as what’s wrong with me.

What if one answered “Yes” to all of the questions.

I’m 60 and have spent my whole life mirroring what has been written here. Thanks to those who have been vulnerable to share. This is despite having spent decades with a variety of counselors and PhD. Psychologists who applied what they knew, helped but never really made this accurate of a diagnosis except to say that “I had an extra gear.” To the commenting psychologist; be careful not to invalidate what you do not know. One of the wisest and educated men I know, Howard Hendricks said, “you cannot impart that which you do not possess…

Wow do I know you? Cause it sure sounds like you know me. Except I barely dodged the marriage bullet from my narc of 5+ years. Still trying to bow out gracefully but keep taking her back. Love sucks for creating that inner conflict in me. Anyway thank you for your comment. I found it to be rather refreshing as well as relieving that I’m not the only one. I do think it’s hereditary for what it’s worth.

Overthinking and overpacking…story of my life!

wowww this explains everything. I always viewed it as a blessing in disguise since sometimes, it just ******* hurts. but it prooves to be so helpful if you know what I mean. For so long I thought I was crazy, thinking other peoples thoughts, recognizing im feeling their feelings and not mind. At least im not crazy but its sure true 🙂 empaths suffer so much. Whenever I see my friends in hurt, I cant do anything or say anything besides to help them and guide them through it. I need to practice not trying to help. lol. there were times when I was in high school, and I had about 4 girls a day at set hours to talk to me about their pain and Id give them advice. I was like a therapist. It brought a lot of joy in my life knowing im helping, but a lot of pain as well. This provides so many answers. I felt so alone and lost due to this.

I always knew I was different. It all makes sense now. Wife always said was something wrong with me. Nope it was a gift. Something not ok with her. Alone time will help me heal and be strong.

It surely sounds like I’m an empath. I’m a man. Often been told I’m too sensitive, don’t like loud noises and loud people. I connect painfully to others emotions and usually care too damn much. I get hurt easily. I do love time alone in nature, that’s what I’m doing right now. I’ve been described as peculiar because I love to be alone on my good friends ranch. My dog is my best companion. I was married to a malignant spiritual narcissist for fifteen years of hell on earth. Although I’ve been divorced for 21 years I still suffer from that abusive relationship. It helps to know what I am.

I have thought the same thing after helping people repeatly. Being so tired but still un able to just say I don’t fill to good can we do it tomorrow. one day you realize you don’t have many true friends which sounds strange when you help a lot of folks. You start to think what if I need some help to do whatever that maybe a ride to the Dr Maybe a friend that won’t ask you for anything or won’t lie to you. I thought hard I couldn’t think of anyone not my wife not my grown sons not my daughter. It was a sad day.

I’m sad to tell you after 40 yrs of marriage and trying to share my faith with my wife has not worked out so well for her nor me. My health is damaged from the one way love you will get back. The other partener my wife has suffered nothing and has not changed one bit jesus is as much a stranger to her now as he was 40 yrs ago.

Very insightful and real advice. Thank you!

Thank you. I have been reàding the comments on this post for over an hour. I never do that. I have gotten some good advice, but yours was the reason I kept reading on. Thank you for taking the time to share what you have learned. Not only do I plan on following it and reading the books you suggested, but I will be paying it forward as well. Peace Out! 🙂

Mathew, it’s my experience that the narcissist almost always takes. When they give it’s usually to set you up so they can tear you down again. I’m not saying they never give but it’s a rare thing. They get a sick enjoyment out of hurting you. Think of what you’re losing by staying with her because as you say “It’s so hard”. She knows you’ll put up with her crap and if you try to leave shell give you a bunch more to make you want to stay however she can. She just has to be in control. Try and imagine having peace of mind day after day. That’s what I have since I got away from my X.

Hi Blanca

Just think about it and nothing else

It is so sad but not just for you, but for them as well. Knowing what lengths you are willing to go for even shallow friends, just think what you would do for a truly real friend.. Most don’t understand and sadly never will. I think i can easily say that I would, without much thought if any, willingly lay down my life for a true friend if it were needed.

sorry for some of the gramma but I am 12 and at the end of the comment it said for senge but I actually meant from senge sorry and bye my fellow empaths

I agree. I often use the same reference “a blessing and a curse.” I do challenge my inner critic because I always want to remain sceptical …even though most of the time I generally find out some reason I was spot on. I hate feeling emotional. I can be that one person standing in a group setting and feel anger, sadness, contempt from what by all appearances is a fun environment. I know it’s not me but it’s projecting from someone within that space. It’s awkward because you’re fussing with the inner critic trying to rationalize. Why am I feeling sad from a person who is the life of the party? Sometimes you realize a day later, or a week . A month what that was all about. Oh the perfect couple broke up that night but it pulled off a great show to hide it… except one empath caught it and tried hard to shrug it off as nonsense. But when you feel…you feel… and there’s times some of us don’t want to feel. That’s the burden. Knowing and not wanting to know.

I just found out I am an empath too! Its hard for me to block out other peoples feelings. I always want to help others. Ive been struggling to find meaning in my life. After being married to a narcissistic who al ost destroyed me. I feel like I don’t fit in anywhere. Even though I know I shouldn’t feel like that. I never understood why I always want to fix the people I am in a relationship with? Why are we attracted to the opposite of us in a relationship? A narcissist? I don’t even know how to find others like me. So I can hone my gift and help others while turning it into a meaningful career. I just like I am in pain all the time and its not even from me. Its from the people I am around on a regular basis.

Yes, it’s good to know that others have this predicament. Even people I would like to be friends with, male or female, I cannot usually spend much time with. I’ve had the experience where people come to me in dreams to share problems or emotionally difficult situations. I do get tired. And it’s hard to explain !

Totally, BAC, blessing and curse! I was able to use my abilities as a councilor for many years but then became so drained that I couldn’t talk with people. I could see the person who wanted to speak with me and I would duck out. They would even invade my dreams. However, as someone mentioned, “No” is a complete sentence. Love it

Know what you mean. And it is sad
I’m taking a taxi

Sky is the limit where the possibilities are limitless we can adapt and overcome the seemingly impossible, limitation is only a boundary set to be pushed only way to exceed limitation is to push limitation and I’ll ride that rocknroll train any life. I have coexisted for 32 yrs of life juvenile lockup isolation which I learned the gift of perception by watching from a window isolated with myself only to entertain I processed emotions in isolation so I’ve become extremely good at controlling the inner beast but I learned also their are 2 lions that live within us whichever we feed is the healthiest and will conquer and devour the other. Military I trained and graduated with honors at the age of 17 to be an 11B infantry soldier where my honors were control and my skills in shooting they broke me down and figured out I had special forces capabilities but THOU SHALL NOT KILL really rang towards end of A.I.T. but another journey among many others I have had a very excellent life even with a short prison and county lockup over a few errors along the way but I love my life living and live my life loving. I believe in doing all actions with and out of love and I shall do no wrong love is perfect….

I had no idea that there are people who can sense the energy and emotion of other people. My sister was telling me about psychics and how I should try and meed with one. Who knows, maybe I can find an empath near me or talk to one over the phone.

Absolutely agree, trying to use it as a super power,I feel could be dangerous. We must remember we are posting our comments to empath strangers. Please realize some of us can feel others emotions just by reading the words they chose to use to express that experience and describe how they feel. My life is a mess right now because being an empath person all six kinds of empath person, I feel everything. My sister has cancer, surgery tomorrow. We are very close, I feel her pain. My dog is experiencing bloating, I feel her discomfort, trees fell in my backyard, I feel nature’s grief, my daughter in law is pregnant, I feel her emotions. I will stop there. Oh trust me there is more. I thought I was clinically depressed. My thoughts just won’t turn off. Can’t seem to gain control of my inner self. Everything is off track. I long to have mental peace and relaxation in my brain.

It was in 2012, I didn’t know who I was. I knew that loud noises, slow acting, disrespectful, lying, & manipulating ppl made me angry. Etc.., I am a true EMPATH & IT’S DAYS THAT I DON’T WANT TO BE. I JUST DON’T GET IT!

I’m 66yrs old Over the long decades of suffering with being an empath and many different experiences with this throughout my life that are your same stories listen to your gut feelings, Don’t second guess or think your crazy or it’s you as much as you can. The process of acceptance of this condition takes time and willingness to look at the truth. Own it and don’t try to get people to understand. Sadly this will save you time and energy before it potentially destroys you. I know, I had a lot of counseling and still run into problems with everything on occasion that you’ve all said

I agree. I kinda always new I was a empath, but the first time I heard about empaths. It was always linked to magic or psychic and that was the only info I could get. I’m glad I took a empath test and looked it up again and now there’s so much info, which is helping me a lot. It’s good to know there are more of us than I thought. I do have a question. Is there any other social empaths like me? I’ve learned to find people with good hearts with my gift/ curse. I try to do fun activities, which usually brings positive energy. Sometimes I have to dill with negative energy to. Like; fear, self doubt and anxiety. The biggest thing I want to change is to not fall in love so easily and stay in love for so long. It’s hard being a single man with this. People always think I’m something I’m not like a player or guy. So I always get rejected. It sucks knowing the woman I love, love me to before anything happens. I always put my self in the friend zone or I move to fast and scar them away.

I just get so extreme when it comes to how I’m feeling. I’ve isolated myself and refused to go to my mother’s Memorial because I can’t deal with what’s happening to me let alone feeling what everybody else is feeling too. So I just kind of stay to myself now.

I relate to everything about an intuitive empath. Even the codependency.. I have always felt I was really good at “reading people”, that I know what their intent is. If there is a motive, what they are wanting out of someone or a situation. It kinda makes me feel judge mental and probably looks that way on the surface but I feel that I know if their intent is good or bad. Almost instantly. When meeting people, I feel like I know wether I would like this person or not if, they have good intentions or not, if they are fake, A liar, a user, or a good person. When a person talks I listen and I can hear them so intensely. I can feel the stories behind things they say, I can feel their emotions and understand why they feel the way they feel. I almost instantly know And can tell when something is said if there is a reason for them feeling that way, that something has happened in life to them or an experience that has made them feel that way. It’s so hard to explain but for me … being an intuitive empath makes so much sense. I feel a lil relieved. I also feel deeply. I’m a problem solver. Bit of a loner, choose not to connect with a lot of people. But when I do, I do! I can feel a good person and I trust them wholeheartedly. But if I get a sense of something wrong or fake, I choose to keep my distance and don’t trust them…. So much of this feels right to me. I have a hard time fitting in, always felt different, abnormal. Now what do I do?

Marshall, you bring up a good point (and someone else on this thread), about connecting with animals. I bet that’s another textbook empath trait: to find the company of animals more appealing than humans. Dogs love me, and I love them. That said, marry me? Kidding not kidding

I hear you when you say others do not understand..when I try and explain in the first minute I can tell by their energy change and demeanor that they think I’m lala..I have no friends like me…just negative energies fighting against me

Yes yes yes

Mads I believe in God always have but I am also very spiritual and I have 2 amazing guides with me 24/7..I know spirituality is not everyone’s thing but it works for me..so I ground clear and protect asking for my guides to provide me me with white light protection saying a prayer to ward away all negative energies not meant for my higher self and welcome all positive energies meant for my higher self. It works beautifully but I forget I pay and feel everything around me like a battering ram…
I include the lords prayer with my spiritual protection as the Devine is still the biggest part of the spiritual realm

Almost all empathic, sensitive, & psychic people
Are born into this existence with no frame of reference. No one to explain WTF is happening!?
I started off my life pretty normal, then I had my first experience with real deja vu. I was in preschool and I remember coming into school & noticing that everyone was doing what I remember happening the day before. Exactly!
Shortly after noticing something weird was going on, a teacher asked me what was wrong, cuz I was standing there looking confused as hell, and said why is everyone doing what we did yesterday? She what do u mean? …Well all those girls are in the corner again talking, he playing with the cars, then we play bingo, and everyone thinks that kid is cheating, then u make us color so stupid pair of shoes… Then she stopped me and said, Wait a minute, how do I know we are gonna color a pair of shoes today!? I said I told you, this is exactly what we did yesterday! Then she said, but Sonny yesterday was Sunday and we’re not here on Sundays. Being a little kid I just said, oh and shrugged it off, figuring I must have imagined it. It wasn’t till I got older and learned about deja Vu and being different kinds of psychic. Like alot of us, my empathic abilities didn’t start until I hit puberty in like 5th or 6th grade. That’s when I started feeling other people’s feeling and I constantly got overwhelmed to the point, I had to leave school all the time, cuz how I felt kept constantly shifting from one intense feeling to the next! I felt like I had no control over how I wanted to feel. I was like an antenna for feelings, and there was no off switch! I believe we all have it, it’s just some block it out from a young age and it eventually disappears. Think of it this way, It’s like a muscle, that can’t get any stronger unless ur aware of its existence and make a conscious effort to strengthen it. Trust me when I say, I know it’s easier said then done. That’s why my new goal in life is to create an interactive place for people like us to go and learn from each other. A place our sensitive kids can go to get the answers we so desperately needed when we first started down this path. I believe we are the next step in evolution. To counter all the greedy heartless, that are leading us down the path to our destruction.
If we band together, and teach each other & our children all the things they should have taught us in school & that there is alot more to life & what it means to be human.

I know exactly what how awful it can feel when your adult children exhibits the same traits as the Narcc parent , my ex husband .., I have 2 that are that way and one teenager that he is trying to mold the very same way today, it scares me to see those traits in them because I have a dislike for those kinds of people and for my own blood to be one of those people is very hard to deal with , Good Luck to you Ken

Predicting TV shows I do that also , and I find myself saying to people well it obvious can’t you tell how the story is gonna go, and like you said it does ..Then I’m the person Who think they know it all

Thank you. We all should have and exhibit empathy and love for one another, and we are the way that we were created by God.
No reason to try to find labels for ourselves.
We are all children, brothers and sisters and neighbors to each other.
I love each one of you on this thread and your courage to comment.
I pray for all of you.

Hello to you all. Some can’t understand why I can’t attend funerals,weddings ect. But simply..their are just too many emotions flying around. I didn’t attend my dads or my moms funeral. I was blessed that my mom understood just why. My family may not always understand the why I just can’t do certain things…but they accept this about me. Actually my friends accept this as well. But others think I’m being selfish,or I’m only thinking of myself. These words no longer bother me because caring about myself is just as important as caring for others. Before my mom died…we talked. I thanked her for giving me faith and told her how I felt about her & thanking her for wisdom. I’m still learning..But my understanding of “human nature” is vast & I’m so grateful. Being alone is a gift and knowing my true self is too. But understanding EMOTIONS the why’s are my favorite.

❤️

The first time I heard the term empath I looked it up I thought yeah it sorry if sounds like me but since then I’ve Reese more articles on the subject and know I’m a certain type of empath. I can see the truth in ppl or should I say I know when ppl are lying and up to no good! That’s a good thing however ppl don’t always like it when I say the truth or dispelthe bullshit going on around me! Another thing is I am very emotional in weird ways. For example just tonight I laid down to go to sleep and add soon as I got comfy I had Ann overwhelming feeling somethings not right. I’ve donethis several times through out my life and there always a reason behind it! Tonight as I got comfy I just had this feeling and knew somethings Erin and started crying uncontrollably so I got up and started calling my kids to make sure they and my dad were ok. My grandson had just been choking on a sucker and my daughter was frantic. I could go on and on about my intuition/feelings! Yes, I’m very sensitive and highly clairvoyant. Articles like this hello us to know everything is alright. Nature yes I love it!! Pets/animals seems to talk to me with their eyes even. No I’m not crazy by far!! I’m trying tio get use tio all this however I feel it’s just the till of the ice berg for me!

Marshall, How did you get out of the relationship? Im in the same boat and Ive taken the Empath test. I check all boxes. Im looking for an exit strategy out of my marriage. She refuses to divorce.

Everything in this article is what I experience on a daily basis, but I don’t get drained and of course I also can since when someone upset or depressed with out knowing thim

How do I find a doctor for this kind of stuff, I just got so emotional I literally blew out half the breakers around me in my house, I could literally feel the surge blow threw me, now I’m really upset, doesn’t feel cool at all, really scared my grandma, idk if I need an exercist a doctor a cop or scientist but this sux it’s really taken it’s tool on me, I feel like I’ve been weaponized smh 😭 no fucking joke and anyone real on here will know I’m telling the truth so please help or Srry this is hard

I could check every box plus. I can read people and when I don’t think about it I can tell you what they will do. I also can absorb others pain and have in the past made people believe things that they know are not true. I can’t hold anger or really get angry much. Others feelings are stronger and more powerful then my own. Babies and animals love and I mean love me. Adulation not so much. I have found one person that can put up with me for more than a short time. Being in nature is my sanity. I never really get lonely and love being alone. Other adults either only want to be around me for what they can get from me or they hate me for no real reason. I love to take care of things and protect them at my own costs. Some I’ve known forever some I just learned by trying to better myself. My problem is how do I better myself if I don’t know why these things are. Oh and bad things seem to love to snake me upside the head. I mean like crazy stuff and when I tell someone about them they think I’m lying my husband had to experience them to get it.

I feel like I mirror the energy of people in my life. I find myself in relationships that are draining. I believe in my intuition and trust what it’s telling me regardless of what the other person tells me. I struggled believing my intuition and spent lots of energy trying to figure it out when people lied and it amazed me how long a person would stand their ground knowing they’re lying. It would take a lot of energy and cause anxiety. I wish there were a way to prove intuition that would make those who live negatively not waste my time and energy.

Oh wow. I am finding this out about myself and I’m married to a narcissist. The more I learn the stronger it makes me want to leave and to understand why leaving is so hard.

I need help I think I’m an empath.

You are looking into your mirror and I am your reflection.

What is up with us (empaths) being in serious relationships with narcissists? My ex-husband, textbook narcissist. We divorced when my sons were 7 and 10 years old. They are both empaths too, they are now 17 and 20 years old (both in therapy mainly because of their Dad). I feel badly thinking that I have passed this trait onto them. I even tried to guide them away from feeling things so deeply. Over the years, I have learned to put “walls” up around me. They haven’t reached that point in their life yet, but I constantly remind them to be mindful of where they put their enegy.. Best wishes to my fellow empaths💗

I am a female in my teen. I was browsing upon the word empathy and this website brought me so much nearer to myself. I realised that I myself am an empath, currently with me in my teenage year and dealing with so much negativity around me I feel so overwhelmed, I don’t want to use the word depressed but I just feel so low all the time and after reading many comments of people saying opposite attract, the burden was put on top of everything else since I have never been in a relationship before. This also explains why many of my secondary school experiences that I don’t have many school mates and in general friends. Thank you for whoever made this website it’s been helpful to find the root of the emotions that I feel throughout everything. Oh and one more thing, my mum I would also consider an empath even though we never talked about it but her husband, my dad was a narcissistic and now I’m worried that my 22 year old brother would become like his father.

It’s hard for me to take all this in. Doesn’t EVERYONE perceive when others have intense emotions? When I walk into a room, I can almost ALWAYS read the vibe without a single utterance, particularly people who are close to me—parents, my children and especially my husband—it’s like he sweats anger, hostility and general displeasure and I feel it immediately.

After 27 years of marriage, it’s become debilitating, because I absorb this negativity and it wears me down.

I feel hopeless because this is my life.

On the other hand, sometimes I feel like I’m making this all up and fitting my experience to match the definition … all I know is that I’m miserable and overwhelmed with my emotions and it often takes DAYS to emerge from the emotional abyss I end up in.

I know the feeling that it is too late in your life to make any change worth the effort.

Add substance abuse, massive debts, losing my only child to a wife that is severely mentally unstable, newpartner is narcissistic, 14 years with her and she has destroyed me. no energy, bad health, no hope, no love, just waiting for cancer to come and finish me off pretty much. She wont leave. She may some day when there really is nothing left to use me for. I lose this house she will move on i bet anything thats true.
Feel like such a pathetic idiot for falling for all this.

OMG Linda. I’m going to end up replying to every. So much of me in these words. Is there a club for us? A place we can chill with honesty and respect and be amongst like kinds?

Study Narcissism Duane

These people are parasites and live off your energy.

Best of luck.

I completely can relate to this article, It’s funny that I was writing about being your own best friend recently ,and I found it here too. I am very grateful for being an empath it is hard but I cannot complain. I’ve always wanted to be able to read ppl’s energy or vibes. It was a long and a hard journey for me to know who I am, but defiantly worth it. When you here someone says life taught me! know they’ve been through a lot. I took an oath that I will be my best friend , to teach me, hug me, forgive me ,and always love me.

Not sure if everyone is still active in this discussion, but being an empath and having empathy by being empathetic is as a blessed curse! It would be nice to all of us continue talking about things that have happened. It’s what would define us and our thoughts. That way we ourselves could really understand what and how to help. I wanted to space this out from what I’ve been maybe not putting into rhyme or reason, but having been born on Earth Day, it’s been way crazy nuts! I love it though! Hello to everyone, hope all is well!

I discovered I was an empath not long after leaving my narcissistic husband. Unfortunately I still feel that discomfort from him and I am struggling to let it go.
He has 2 of my children and has made it impossible to see or speak to them and I have evidence of the manipulation going on in the home.
I feel lost there.

I’m so happy to read your post!!! You are a wonderful mind and want you to know that: Will send you much energy as i can to make this happen if you decide to do it ✨️

I’m an Empath as well. I usually don’t share my story with anyone, but this is something that I just learned about today. I have been researching, trying to find out why I’m so sensitive towards ppl and noise and can never seem to say no to anyone even if I know they are lying to me. My spouse “AKA” (kids dad) and I have been living apart for over 3 years. However, the other day I ended it for good. He’s cheating again, I feel it in my gut, but he will not be a man and own up to it. We lived together for over 16 years, and I found naked pics of various women taken by him and emails to/from women he was communication with while I was working. To this day he says they didn’t mean anything. Oh, I forgot to mention a text message saying he would eat pie off one of the wh**es. Nowadays, if pie is mentioned, I get upset and pissed! He can’t seem to grasp that it’s over. I’ve invested so much in this man it’s insane. I know it, I just couldn’t seem to say no. I feel relieved to have found your posts…….He’s always telling me I have negative thoughts going on inside my head and need to stop living in the past. Thank U God….now I know I’m not crazy!!

Hi, I’m sorry about your husband, the “narcissist.” However, I’m glad you found your voice and courage in that situation. I’m also an empath. I have make since I was a child. Anyway I have never heard another person notice how pets take to them so easily. I am also a magnet for dogs, cats even birds. That’s very interesting. Thanks for sharing that. It’s a very lonely world not knowing other empaths.