I’ve decided not to make any New Year’s resolutions. This just isn’t the year for that. There are a lot of suggestions being offered for constructive ways to approach this upcoming year. There are the traditional self-improvement resolutions. Then there is gentler advice that focuses on gratitude and self-compassion. But I’m going to ignore them… Read more »
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New Year’s is often seen as a time to create a new story. This year, with a new surge in the pandemic, many people are left with the unsettling feeling of moving backwards instead of forward. Most of us are afraid of re-experiencing the painful aspects of the past two years, the isolation, the uncertainty…. Read more »
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Many people are fresh off gathering with family this holiday season. Getting together with our own unique variety of loved ones: those we adore as well as the quirky ones, the grumpy ones, even the ones we don’t really get along with can be bittersweet. Everyone acknowledges that these visits can be challenging, thus the… Read more »
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It’s pretty much to be expected that the people who matter most to us also happen to be the ones with whom we spend the most time. Unfortunately, there can be a downside to getting to know someone really well. Not only do we become aware of their flaws or shortcomings, but we may hone… Read more »
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The relationship we have with our parents or primary caretakers is almost never black or white. Some of us may be more inclined to idealize our parents, while others may feel especially zoomed in on their shortcomings. Most of us are guilty of both. As adults, we’re often better able to see that our parents… Read more »
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Do you ever feel anxious or depressed – especially in these times? It’s easier than we think for our brain to get conditioned into an anxious or depressive loop. In this video I’m going to share with you what I’ve learned over the last 20 years as a psychologist, around what are natural ways to… Read more »
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I have been blessed with a very lucky life. I was born into a middle-class family in a modern, developed country. My children and my loved ones have all been healthy. Medical attention has been available to us. I have never suffered from financial hardship. I have always had friends. I’ve enjoyed the work and interests I… Read more »
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Many people struggle with reconciling what they think they want with what they go about getting. What I mean by that is, they don’t fully understand how and why they get in their own way when it comes to their goals. To a certain degree, many of us don’t actually want what we say we… Read more »
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All of us have a longing to be the recipient of caring gestures and offerings that express thoughtfulness and sensitivity to what we need. However, many of us also experience a certain level of discomfort around receiving because, even as it may benefit us and be what we wish for, it also challenges us. Too… Read more »
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Most of the time, I write about the downsides of self-criticism – so much so that anyone familiar with my work would probably be puzzled by the title of this blog. For years, I’ve centered my research and practice on understanding and challenging a “critical inner voice” we all possess that is way too hard… Read more »
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